David Goggins: How to Build Immense Inner Strength
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David Goggins (00:00)
Welcome to the Huberman Lab Podcast, where we discuss science and science-based tools for everyday life. I'm Andrew Huberman, and I'm a professor of neurobiology and ophthalmology at Stanford School of Medicine. My guest today is David Goggins. David Goggins is a retired Navy SEAL who served in Iraq and Afghanistan. He's also a highly accomplished ultramarathon runner. For those of you that don't know, ultramarathons are distances longer than 26 miles, and in David's case, often longer than 200 miles. For his achievements in athletics, he has been inducted into the International Sports Hall of Fame. He also held a Guinness World Record for the most pull-ups completed in 24 hours. I should mention that not only was David a decorated Navy SEAL, but he also graduated from Army Ranger school. David is also a highly successful writer, having authored two books, the first entitled Can't Hurt Me and the second entitled Never Finished, both of which are bestsellers. David's books cover many topics, including his autobiographical description of what can only be described as an incredibly challenging child and young adulthood. His home was abusive. His school environment was abusive. He essentially had no positive resources directed his way. And in his 20s, he found himself to be obese. That is more than 300 pounds working a job he despised for minimal pay. And it was at that point that David began an inner dialogue that forced him to explore the demons born out of his childhood, but also the position that he found himself in as a young man, and then began the journey to navigate that dialogue and transform himself into the Navy SEAL, the ultramarathon runner, the best-selling author, and the extraordinarily positive and influential man that he is today. As some of you may know, David has done various public lectures. He's a familiar face online because there are so many clips of him on YouTube, and he has done podcasts before. However, I'm certain that you'll find today's discussion to be very different than previous podcasts that David has been featured on. The reason is that, of course, we get into his accomplishments. We talk about the mindset that allowed him to achieve those things. But today, David really lets us under the hood. He lets us into the form of inner dialogue that he has to embrace, indeed, that he has to grapple with on a daily basis, sometimes multiple times throughout the day and night, in order to impose the sort of self-discipline that he is so well known for. We also get into some of the scientific mechanisms underlying willpower, and we talk about David's current endeavors that include, for instance, his own exploration of science and medicine, for which he has become an intense scholar and practitioner. I should mention that multiple times throughout today's discussion, you will hear curse words. Now, David and I both acknowledge that cursing isn't for everybody, and that cursing itself is different than cursing at somebody. Nonetheless, we do realize that many people, parents perhaps especially, might not want to hear cursing. If you don't want to hear cursing, well then this podcast episode is probably not for you. However, if you are comfortable with cursing or if you can tolerate it, I assure you today's discussion is highly worthwhile. Before we begin, I'd like to emphasize that this podcast is separate from my teaching and research roles at Stanford.
Personal Development, Focus, Mindset And Growth
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Learning, Studying & Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) (07:58)
My man. Good to see you again, man. Great to see you. It was late 2016, early 2017, I believe, when you were in my lab at Stanford. Yes, sir. We did a little work later that day down in San Jose. And gosh, see you everywhere, but it's not enough. So great to have you here. Thanks for having me on, brother. Yeah. You embody discipline and doing hard things. Right. I think we should just start right off with the bold truth. Let's just go there. But right before we went hot mics, we were talking about learning. Right. Right now you're spending some time learning and doing things that I think most people probably don't typically associate David Goggins with. Right. Why don't you tell us about that? Well, most people just look at me as the guy that runs and yells as he's running and that's uh while i do that you know to motivate people but people don't understand that my day is broken up into segments i work out i eat i sleep but i spend most of my time studying so like i'm in the medical world, I'm a paramedic in Canada, but I spent a lot of my time trying to nuke every single thing about it because I'm not trying to just be a paramedic, learn about veins and arteries and how the heart pumps and stuff like that. I'm trying to learn to the point where I can save someone's life. And even though paramedics are doing that all over the world, I'm trying to be that paramedic that can really dissect exactly what's going on and figure out, you know, what medication goes where. Just trying to, you know, just trying to learn, you know, the algorithm of what's going on, man. So I spend a lot of time with it. I love the word algorithm because when I teach biology or try and learn anything that's related to biology, especially the human body, I need to know the nouns, but it's the verbs that matter. And that's related to biology and especially the human body right i need to know the nouns yep but it's the verbs that matter and that's really what you're talking about like like just saying that that sits there that brain part there doesn't tell you how it all works together so what is your process for studying look like like if we dropped a uh a uh camera in the room but a microphone into that into your inner dialogue right gosh wouldn't wouldn't we all love that but if we dropped a microphone into your inner dialogue are you waking up looking at the books and going yeah fresh day right let's learn or is some of the same resistance that you've talked about coming up around physical work is that coming up from time to time you know what i was nervous at first. I'm gonna keep the mother I'm gonna keep it real. I'm gonna be real so I'm not a real smart guy And what I mean by that is I was born with a DD ADHD Like my brain cannot retain information. I'm not some genetic frequent comes to run even it comes to lifting weights I am absolutely the bottom of the barrel and when it comes to running, when it comes to lifting weights, I am absolutely the bottom of the barrel. And people will never believe me. And they can just, you know, whatever, believe what you wanna believe. So when you asked me this question about what does studying look like for me, I have to go over the same page over and over and over and over again. While Jennifer can look at that page, while she's, you know, quizzing me, she'll learn it right then as she's, she doesn't know anything about it. She will quiz herself or quiz me and learn it as she's quizzing me. It's the most frustrating thing in the world how my brain works. So what I do is I literally sit there with a pen and paper and I have my books and I go through through have to write everything down every single day i will study the same page until it's photographic memory from writing the same thing down and then from there i'll go back through and relearn again so i'll learn the bulk of it but then i'll go through and learn the small things within that so if it's a medication i'll learn what the medication does i'll first i'll learn how to even say the medication because these medications aren't like you know like out beautiful no it's it's very big words so i go through, learn how to say the name. Then I'll go through, learn what the dose is. Then I'll go through, and this is like every single day. So not like, oh, I got it. Let's just go through. No, nothing is I got it. Every single thing, so I can't wait to get in this conversation because everything I do in life, it sucks. Everything I do in life, it sucks. Everything I do in life, it sucks. That's why when I was 300 pounds and 24 years old, it wasn't like I had some big epiphany of, let's just go be a Navy SEAL and let's lose some weight. No, I knew my entire life was going to be a struggle, which is why I just ignored it. And I said, I'm not even trying to jump off into this shit and learn how to read, how to write, how to memorize, how to become something I am not. But through that process, something happened to me and I realized this, this is why I feel sorry for no one. And this podcast, they're going to really not like me because people are going to think that I am maybe lying or maybe fibbing or exaggerating. No, I am literally, I was the lowest form on earth, no talent, no ability to learn. And I literally know what it is to be rock bottom and to build that up so that question about learning it's a pain in my ass and i don't have to do it so think about i'm 49 years old i'm a multi-millionaire i don't have to do anything so all i thought about when i was growing up is man i can't wait to one day get to the point where I no longer have to do this stuff. But what happens, I got older, it became a way of living. So how I do every day is how I do every day. It's a discipline. It's a regimen. It was a choice I made. And the choice I made was, what are you willing to sacrifice? And what are you willing to give up to find every bit of who you are as a human being and i was willing to give everything to do that so studying is no joke i love that you're studying i recall a few years ago i heard uh some interview or podcast with you and you just threw out like i don't know what i'll do next maybe i'll be a scientist right and i went, yeah. I was like, cause I knew, cause I know you a bit and I see your work out there, but we'd met before that if you decided that you were gonna do it. And learning medicine, which is what you're doing, learning human physiology is so detailed. And people out there have to understand when you look at a textbook and you see the veins and the capillaries, different colors, when the body's open, they're not different colors. Right, right, right. So, I mean, some things have different color contrasts, but it's not like it's all labeled when you pop it open. Exactly. And so the process of writing things down by hand is important for you.
Writing & Learning, ADHD & Focus (14:59)
So you go back and read those notes. Do you think about that stuff on your runs too? Are you segmenting your day? Like when you're done studying, are you heading out for a run and thinking about other things or are you still rehearsing the material in your head? So when I write it down, I write it down and I'm able to, I'm actually looking down at this table right now because I'm back to writing. So I'm actually there right now as I'm able to, I'm actually looking down at this table right now because I'm back to writing. So I'm actually there right now as I'm speaking to you. I write it down in a way that I'm memorizing page 69. So I'm writing it down. So then writing it down and that page synced together in my brain. So I'm looking at the book in my brain right now. So like that's just how it works for me. And I have to do it over and over again. So that page is stuck in my brain right now so like that's just how it works for me and i have to do it over and over again so that page is stuck in my mind so i'm literally flipping through pages as i'm taking these tests and i'm taking these national tests to become a paramedic or become a advanced emt or whatever i'm literally as i'm taking that test i'm going through and i'm like now i'm flipping pages in my head of where that page was. And how I do that is just from how I write it and how it's on the page. When I run, I can't recall any of it. I cannot bring any of that because I'm running. How my mind is wired now is that everything I do is what I do. Because the focus it takes for me to, like right now, I'm running. I'm not like a great runner. I'm not like injury-free. So like my first 20 minutes of the run, I'm limping. I'm literally limping because I've had several knee surgeries and my body was twisted. And so now it's untwisting. So people look at me, oh, it looks like he's limp, you know, like limping when he runs. I am limping when I run. My body's jacked up. So I'm focusing on how to get the best out of a broken body. So everything I do is a total focus on what I'm doing at that point in my life. So it seems like you've really trained away or somehow gotten away from the ADD that you mentioned. Because what you described is a deep trench, like a V-shaped trench. I'm imagining like there's a ball bearing and it's like, and it can only go forward in that trench. Right. Or back and it goes forward. It's not like sliding around at the concave at the bottom. Right. Like a tension. So it's like you've trained that up. Is there a similar feeling when you're in the full focus of running versus full focus of studying is it kind of feel like oh yeah that's the same groove but different thing or is it just completely different world it's a completely different world like it's just both them for me it's suffering but suffering a whole different way. Like when I was going through school, I'll never forget, I think I was in third grade. And back then, you know, ADD, ADHD, wasn't like, you know, here's this medicine, here's this thing. They wanna put you in a special school. So for me, I was so far behind in learning that their big thing was, let's just put him in a special school because he'll never learn. And through that process of like, I don't want to be in a special school. I don't want to be treated any differently. It really like I never took medication. I've never taken medication for this. That's why right now you see me looking right in your eyes. What the hell is Truman saying right now? And that's why I don't feel bad for people who have ADHD, who have learning disabilities. And some are impossible because you just can't. But a lot of them you can. But people don't want to go through the process of focus, of teaching yourself how to truly focus. This is where my message gets lost. It gets lost because I may say, you know, MF or F, you know, I may be because that's the passion that comes out of me because that's it takes everything for me to learn a sentence. So when I speak about David Gogginsgins I can't speak about David Goggins in a way that's just calm and cool because when I wake up I know the journey that takes for me to find my greatness and it's hard every nothing is easy nothing just like oh I wake up and I just do this I do that or it just you know I watch people every day go through life and it's so easy for me to be where i'm at today it takes every bit of me so when i speak about it and as i get going here you'll start seeing me the temple will rise the passion will come out because i'm back there i'm doing what i do every day to become a human being and so nothing is easy like running is running it sucks but you have a choice to make do you want to sit down and go back to that guy you once were no so this is what it takes this it takes that misunderstanding of people and they'll never get it because they've never david goggins so that is what it takes for me to do what i do it may take you something differently so for me everything has to i do it may take you something differently so for me everything has to be in the studying everything has to be into this everything has to be everywhere i am has to be there me focus where i am that's why you're my second podcast i've done since rogan since the book came out i don't have time for that because if i want to be great i'm not trying to maximize money or maximize people knowing me i do these things because maybe someone out there will understand me and get it and say i can grow from this guy and others just won't it sounds like friction is something you're very familiar with i just it's a word just as i feel like it's like yes cast above us right now and boldface highlighted underlined letters friction is friction yes like you're you're up in the morning and i imagine david goggins going to the coffee maker stretching out good morning sunshine and you're telling me from eyelids open there's friction yes and that is the thing that people don't they don't get the biggest misunderstanding about dav Goggins of all time it's like whether you believe in God or not I do he put this lab rat which is me on this planet it's a let me fucking see what a beat-up abused kid who has who can barely learn barely, who has a twisted body, messed up genetics, sickle cell, this and that.
Friction, Focus, “Conqueror’s Mindset” (20:35)
Let me give him everything that pretty much disqualifies you from the military. But back then, it wasn't as strict. And let's put him in this and see what comes out of it. So to do that, friction, you don't wake up in the morning time and go to the coffee maker. Matter of fact, sometimes I don't even sleep. What it requires is when I'm at 2 o'clock in the morning, it's 2 o'clock in the morning, and my brain is thinking about a fucking drug, and I got to get up and look in my book to see if that drug is how I remember it. And this is every day of my fucking life. That's why when I train a fighter or i train so i'm like you have no fucking idea how great you really are because you are using such minimal minimal of what you have and if people can learn to focus this is what's possible while it may not be pretty like people want to do a documentary on me. I go, no. I don't want you to do a documentary on me. Because I will have normal, everyday people picking me apart. His life is miserable. Who wants to live like that? He looks, it's crazy how he, it's almost like he's sick. He's psychotic. The most frustrating thing in the world for me is when normal people judge a man like myself on what it really takes to extract greatness from nothing it takes every bit of who you are if you choose that route if you don't Merry Christmas do what you got to do but yeah all these things for me like like i told you i'm gonna keep it real i i'm not coming here to talk about like you know perform without purpose because i go through when i write these books i go through i try to dumb down david gas. How can I give normal people, and I'm normal, but I found something that most don't want to find. How can I speak to people and give them something from this crazy, psychotic brain that I've developed? How can I give them that? So I sit down with Jennifer for years and write down, out purpose callous your mind armor your mind the cookie jar the accountability shit that people can fucking use in their lives no no i'm glad it helps you but the barbaric life that i live that you have to live the almost obsession that you must have to be great. You can't put that shit in a fucking book, bro. You can't put in a book. Can't you can't write about it. It has to be experienced. It has to be experienced. And you can't even, after you experience it to write it in a book, it would seem like he needs to be locked up. This ain't too gory. 's too gory doesn't make sense for a guy that everything every second of the day he is trying to extract more from something he's constantly thinking he's constantly constantly disciplined never going off the path whatever is injured on him he figures away It's a conqueror's mindset. And very few people, if any, can really understand what that is. Like, I'm almost 50, and I've been this way for almost 30 years. Like, what do you do for fun? You never, like, these questions, I don't get them. I don't understand them. I don't, so, yeah. I get asked that sometimes. What do you do for fun you you never like these questions i don't i don't get them i don't understand them i don't so yeah i get asked that sometimes what are you for fun i start listing off all this stuff like podcasting reading right working out right but so some of that resonates but i think what's so truly unusual about what you're describing your process is that you know from go it's hard yep and i have to ask was being 300 pounds having a cent i'm using the words you've described you've said it before you had a tendency at one point in your life early on tell lies try and get people's approval my ass off crazy haircuts, attention seeking. And yet all of that triggered something that now is extraordinary.
Early Hardships, “Haunted” (25:16)
Do you think those hardships were necessary to flip the switch? I don't know if they were necessary, but it was something that made me feel, I didn't feel good. It was easy. The brain that I was given as a child, it was easy to go home and think about how do I want to be a freak today? How do I want to show up to school today and be a freak? It didn't require me going home and opening a book up saying, it's going to take me all year to learn this fucking page. So instead of learning that page, I learned how to become a character. And maybe that character that I created, that 300 pound insecure guy that used to fake it till I make it type of guy, let me become your friend, let me lie to you until you make it type of guy, let me become your friend, let me lie to you until you like me type of guy. When you have any kind of, any manhood, womanhood, a human being, a soul, a spirit, any, I had no, I must have just this much pride because that's exactly what opened the door for me. Because every day you were a character because every day you were a character every day you were a clown every day you opened that spanish book or that science book or english book you like you looked at it was like it looked like a foreign language and you're saying where do i start where do i start and obviously it was necessary the more i talk about it was necessary because what happened is i became haunted by the mere fact that this is my existence and you got to live with that i lived there for a lot of years and so i sat back and said okay all right i know what this takes and when you you sit back, as fucked up as I was, and I had a laundry list, a table like this of what I have to do to become just a human being that can make ends meet, that can make $1,000 a month just to get there. It was like, oh my God, dude. I'm 16, 17, I can't read, I can't write. And I, oh my God, I'm so behind the power curve and my brain is about being depressed and my dad beat my mom's now home and kids are calling me nigger at school. And I'm like, oh my God, man, what the fuck do I do? And it wasn't like someone came around and said, hey man, you can do this. This is all me. Some people don't know, where does this cold man come from? I'm not trying to be cold. It's the reality of my life. It's the reality of a lot of people's lives. And so, yeah, that had to happen for me to be haunted to be haunted to pull out to extract the guy then today that haunting is something that's still there today because no matter how much you improve no matter how much you change who you are it's not permanent you just wake up and say oh my god man you're you're David Goggins you break records you do this you do that people don't know how are you how are you able to just be so hard because I never turned the thing off because once it turns off I go right back to the David Goggins that is and that's the guy that I'm constantly fighting every day and it's a choice And that's the guy that I'm constantly fighting every day. And it's a choice. And that choice makes you misunderstood. It makes you crazy. That's why I hate fucking social media. In 2013, people wanted me to write my book. I did it in 2018. It took five years. And the reason why I didn't do it, I set a table and Jennifer was there. This was before she started working for me. I started started dating or whatever and all these people were there and they're like man you got to go on social media and i was like you man like i'm not that's it's poison it's poison because i knew what i did to get where i am and i'm gonna have these, these normal everyday people, fat, lazy, exactly who I was, judging me. Because I know it because I was once them. All my hard work, all my dedication, I'm going to have some normal dude get his little brownies, little ding-dong, ho-ho, twinkie, sit there with his coffee, picking me apart. Oh, he must be unhappy he's just do you know how hard it is to put these shoes on every damn morning i don't have you pick me apart so yeah there's there's a there's so much that goes into this that i was like this that I was like, fuck this. I never wanted anything to do with it. So anyway.
Anger, Social Media; Growth & Challenges (30:48)
I'm not a psychologist, but knowing your story from what you've written, what you've said on social media and elsewhere, podcasts, and here now especially, it's amazing to me. And frankly, it pulls at my heartstrings a little bit. I realize that's not what you're trying to do, but that in the course of your childhood and in your young adulthood, that no one ever got between you and the world. No. I forget where I heard it, that like if a kid has just one person that believes in them. Right. You know, and I had my trials and tribulations, but I had great coaches, great mentors. Right. I attached to them. I found them if they didn't necessarily find me. Right. But I'm realizing that your situation was no one's ever said, hey, I'm going to stand here next to you or get in front of you, put a shield up. And so it's almost like you've got these different – it's all you, but there's versions of yourself that like you knew. but there's versions of yourself that like you knew social media. Like, I don't know that I have the wherewithal in 2013, 14, 15, 16, 17, to get in front of myself while doing all this. Cause I've already got so much going on in here. Is that about right? That is right. But I had developed a lot of anger and I still have it. It will never go away for the normal human beings of this world. Because when you put yourself in the sewer like I was in, and please, if someone saved me, come out and announce it to the world. There was no one. There's no one. So when you know that, and then I'm sitting at a table with all these smart people who are telling me what to do and shit and guiding me through my life now, i'm 40 fucking years old you know i was i don't know 40 something years old now i'm 49 and i'm looking at them all and they're now trying to guide me on what's right on this poison and so yeah what you say is right but for me it was more of i know now i don't need you to guide my future i know what's good for me and what's bad for me and for me it took every bit of focus i could and i know social media that's why people love to go on there because they want to show you the good side of life i'm not the good side of life. I'm not teaching good side of life. So I had to figure out a way when I came on in 2016 of teaching you what life really is for the majority of us is hell. And so while people love to show you the cars and the house and the vacations and shit, all that's good, all that's happy. I'm going to show you the cars and the house and the vacations and all that's good all that's happy i'm going to show you the side that i know most you're going through and people hide very well i don't want to hide anymore i hid for 24 years that's why now i told you we can talk about whatever you want because as human beings the one we the the first thing we have to learn i also studied real bad growing up so if you hear me stutter every now and then it's because that was part of my life also so it's funny human beings want to show you the best side and they want to hide the worst side for me i'm going to teach you how to be vulnerable because that's the only way you fix yourself you don't fix yourself by coming out here and me selling you some books that's why i don't have them i forgot them i'm glad people got something from the book i want you to learn that the only way you grow is how to look at yourself and say okay like i did table longer than this. What the fuck I have to do to get somewhere? There was nothing good on there. Nothing. Yeah, I love playing basketball. I left that out. That's something I love to do. I don't care about that. That didn't make the fucking list. Because the list that I had to live by was the very list that was to get me at this table with you, to talk to you, to the normal human beings which I once was, about how you can get somewhere and how it looks. It looks very ugly. There's no fucking passion. There's no fucking motivation. There's no, oh, my God, man, I fucking man i fucking this is no it's every day of your life just doing no passion no discipline no motivation all these words i hate people i hate that so many people fucking use these words now because it's watered it's someone sitting in the room by themselves and they figure themselves out and say god this is gonna fucking suck worse passion when you're 300 pounds where's the motivation when you can't read and write where is it so how did this happen I just fucking did I just did I said maybe at the end of this journey there'll be something there for me. If not, I can read. If not, I'm 185 fucking pounds. There's no magic potion. There's no, oh, let me wake up and look at some shit. No. All those words are overused. They're bullshit. It's all bullshit. Just do your living. How do you want to live? How do you want to living. How do you want to live? How do you want to die? How do you want to fucking be remembered? That's it. That's it. Period. As many of you know, I've been taking AG1 daily since 2012.
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Stick vs. Carrot, Negative Inner Dialogue, “Stay Hard” (37:11)
Yep. I think it's such a powerful word. Yep. Because I was about to say, it seems like a huge part of your process, maybe the entire process is it's all stick, no carrot. You talk about the carrot, the positive thing, and then there's the stick, the thing you're trying to avoid. I feel like the way it's landing for me is it's all stick and gas pedal. There's no carrot. You're not imagining, oh, when I'm a paramedic, when the book is published and obviously you set those goals and you make those targets but it's all stick i'll stick no carrot think about that i'm waking up right now studying like i have a test tomorrow i already passed the fucking test think about that every day of my life that's what i must do just to retain what i learned four hours plus a day i go through and do that there's no stick or there's only a stick there's never been a carrot which is why when i speak to people I have to figure out a way to resonate with them. Because all I want to say to them is, let me teach you the real life, how it really is. The reason why you're a loser and the reason why you're not fucking making it, and the reason why you're trying to go to all these, I go to all these fucking conventions. Speak all the fucking time. you're trying to go to all these i go to all these conventions speak all the time i look in the audience and these people sign up sign up sign up every year to go to convention thinking they're going to learn something different no you're lazy you know exactly what to do exactly what to do because even me in my state of I can't read and write, I knew exactly what to do. It just sucks doing it. It sucks to do it. It sucks to wake up every morning of your life and say, God, man, I'm not smart. So guess what I got to do? I got to study the same shit that I got one of the highest scores in the nation on and do it again do it again do it again it's not just there it's not just there permanently for me so yeah it's all stick it's all stick the only care that you have is like maybe maybe because whenever I take these tests that are real hard, in the back of my brain, it's like, there's a good chance you're not going to make it, Goggins. This ain't you, bro. This ain't you. You weren't born like this. This ain't you. The real you, bro. Study all you want to, but the second that fucking computer comes on with 150 questions, this ain't you, man. And somehow, it comes back with 150 questions. This ain't you, man. And somehow it comes back, I passed. Passed again, passed again. But that real me back here every fucking time is saying, that ain't you, bro. That ain't you. And I have to outwork that voice. When I'm taking that test and I get to a question, I don't fucking know the answer. I'm like, fuck man. And then say, I told you, man, that ain't you. You're 300 pounds, man. You sit at home, you figure out how to do your hair. That's what you do. How to come to school with the reverse baldness when you're 16. That's you. So there is no get out of jail free card this is why i say stay hard because when you weren't given the gifts the only thing you can do in life is stay hard and i know people cannot stand me they can't stand this talk. This is all you can do. There's no magic pill or a magic potion. All you can do is outwork the man that God created or woman in you. And what that looks like is unfun. That's why I said, do not do a documentary on me because people will not see the truth they will see what they want to see is I don't want to live like that good good and you will live exactly the way you live now questioning who you are wondering what is possible wondering what you are capable of doing that's how that looks or you can be me, which, am I happy? I don't know. Never really thought about it. Don't really care about it. Because all I really cared about was when I looked in that fucking mirror, I saw a piece of shit. Happiness wasn't on the mirror at 16. Or when I was doing Japan. It wasn't like, oh my, I'm looking for happiness. No, I'm looking, looking at myself in the mirror and say, all right, motherfucker, you did it again today. You're a bad boy, cause that shit sucks. I have about a couple of minutes of that, when I got the carrot. Second lay down, I go to bed, the carrot's gone because I'm waking up all through the night to check the work I did that day. Did I get this drug right? Did I get this right? Did I get that right? What did I do? Oh my God, fuck. I'm already losing it. Stick. That stick is haunting you. Haunting me. It's following you around.
Inspiration, Characters & Self Image (42:39)
So no picture of Jordan on the wall. You're not listening to YouTube inspiration video. No. That would be all your voice anyway. You're not listening to your top 10 favorite songs just to get rolling and then lace the shoes, hit the books. It's all in here. All in there. I used to do that when I was fat. Rocky, I mean, that was my thing. Round 14 was my thing. And as I got older and older and older, that started to go away. And I started to create, I had all these people that I used to watch. Rocky was one, Barnes, Elias from Platoon, Jack from A Few Good Men. You know, he's on the stand going crazy. I saw a lot of these characters that I looked at and I was like, man, I ain't got none of that. But they were characters. After a while, I lived a life so disciplined that everybody that I once looked to, these fake characters, I built it as a man. look to these fake characters I built it as a man and when I was younger I had this image in my mind of what does a man look like to me and I got all these people who were badasses characters and in my mind I became that and that's what kept me going a lot was I had this pipe dream of becoming a little bit of this and a little bit of that because when you have no parents raising you and you have no role models growing up you it's not daydreaming you start to create a reality like hmm maybe I can be that. And after becoming this guy, that is the biggest thing I can ever do in my life is I became that guy. That I once looked at all these guys and I look at myself like, God, who the fuck can do that? I can't. But what it takes is a discipline that no one can ever even, they just don't, they don't understand it. They don't understand. Everybody has the ability to do it, but they just don't want to. They want to keep asking questions and keep going to seminars. And the greatness is right in you. And that's why, once again, I'll say this a million times here, I do not feel sorry for you. I will not sugarcoat what i'm going to say to you because all of you know what i'm saying is the truth everybody knows the truth this is what it looks like and you know it too you know what too this will if if you ain't got nothing i hate to tell you what it looks like it's ugly it's not a documentary it's not an hbo special you ain't gonna watch them hey man you guys gotta watch this no it's like oh god this looks like a train wreck it's like a nightmare this looks like this guy got no that's what it looks like hard work looks horrible it's not motivating it's not motivating at all it ain't like rocky round 14 he gets knocked down and goes like this to apollo creed it looks like a man being stuck in a dungeon and there's no way out but you have the key but you refuse to use it and that's nothing motivating about that so yes no documentary on david goggins the real life david goggins is that is the documentary it's all it's already being written you're it right yeah i'm gonna share a little neuroscience tidbit love it but
Willpower & Anterior Mid-Cingulate Cortex (46:09)
i think it's one that you'll appreciate most people don't know this but there's a brain structure called the anterior mid cingulate cortex as we pointed out before that's a noun it's a name it doesn't mean anything we could call it the the cookie monster right but what's interesting about this brain area is there now a lot of data mm-hmm in humans that's a mouse study showing that when people do something they don't want to do like add three hours of exercise per day or per week, or when people who are trying to diet and lose weight resist eating something. When people do anything that they, and this is the important part, that they don't want to do. It's not about adding more work. It's about adding more work that you don't want to do. This brain area gets bigger. Now, here's what's especially interesting about this brain area to me. And by the way, I'm only learning this recently because it's new data, but there's a lot of it. The anterior mid-singulate cortex is smaller in obese people. It gets bigger when they diet. It's larger in athletes. It's especially large or grows larger in people that see themselves as challenged and overcome some challenge right and in people that live a very long time this area keeps its size in many ways scientists are starting to think of the anterior mid cingulate, not just as one of the seats of willpower, but perhaps actually the seat of the will to live. Now we're talking. And when I learned about the anterior mid-singulate cortex, I was like almost out of my seat. And I've been in the neuroscience game since I was 20. We're the same age. And I was so pumped because I've heard of the amygdala fear, prefrontal cortex, it's planning in action. I could tell you every brain area and every, I teach neuroanatomy to magical students, but when I started seeing the data on the anterior mid-singulate cortex, I was like, whoa, this is interesting. And all the data points to the fact that we can build this area up, but that as quickly as we build it up, if we don't continue to invest in things that are hard for us, that we don't want to do, that's the part that feels so Gogginsque to me that we don't want to do. Like if you love the ice bath, yeah, I love the ice bath. And you go from one minute to 10 minutes, guess what? Your anterior mid-cingulate cortex did not grow. But if you hate the cold water, if you're afraid of drowning and you get into water and put your head under, then your anterior mids and survive, then the anterior mid-cingulate cortex gets bigger. But if you don't do it the next day, or if you do it the next day and you enjoy it, cause hey, I did it yesterday, woo-hoo, happy me, Merry Christmas, as you would say christmas guess what the anterior mid cingulate cortex shrinks again yep to me this is one of the most important discoveries that neuroscience has ever made because it's that i don't want to do something but do it anyway that's right that grows this area and it's almost like i have a friend he's been sober 30 years from alcohol and he always says you know the amazing thing about addiction is there's a cure the problem is it only works one day at a time yep and so you have to renew it every day that's right so the anterior mid-singulate cortex to me when i learned about it two two things went off in my head whoa this is super interesting and two i gotta tell david coggins about this and i waited until now to tell you because i felt like i well for obvious reasons i wanted to tell you and i wanted to tell you here well i love that because that's how i've lived my entire life i don't know anything about that but people go man you have such a strong will it's something that you build like i never forgot i was on a podcast one time, and this dude goes, you were blessed with a strong mind. Like, what the hell are you talking about? I was blessed with a strong mind. That's something that you have to develop. You develop that over years, decades of suffering and going back into the suffer. That's why a lot of people who graduate Navy SEAL training, they want to know, like, in my, I talk about very openly all the time. A lot of guys don't go, don't want to go back into that water. Don't want to go back into the hard stuff. Maybe not anything hard, anything hard in life. Once you get through it, it's like you become a POW. Like how many POWs you know wanna go back to POW camp? None. When something sucks so bad in life, this is on this that we're talking about now. Very few people to go back. They're happy they graduated. I realized I'm the same way. I don't want to go back. I have to go back. I must go back because that is exactly where all the knowledge of my life exists was back there and what you're exactly talking about. Well, I didn't know anything about this, but how I grew a will was constantly doing these things to now it's just life. I wake up while it still sucks. It's just life. You don't sit back and like, oh my God, like I have days I don't want to do, but I know I'm going to do it. I know from years of just doing it. So that's beautiful. And this is why I came on here with you today. And I'm glad you're talking about this because human beings need to hear this. these hacks on this and that there's no hack bro there's no hack yeah you made this and that and saunas and all this that they yeah it's great there is no life hack to grow that thing how do you grow it do it and do it and do it and do it. That's the hack. The hack is it's going to fucking suck. And that's what I realized. That's what I realized. That's why I wanted to come on here today. I didn't want to come on here and talk about no fucking passion and purpose and how to get the fuck out of bed and how to hit a fucking alarm clock and all this catchphrase bullshit because that wasn't how I lived. That wasn't how I lived. That wasn't how I lived. I lived, I woke up like every human being does and goes, fuck, man, I'm a fucking piece of shit today. How the hell is this going to work out for me? And you fight that. And you fight that. You don't override it. There's no override button. It's the conversation in your fucking, in your head. So how do you do that? We don't have enough of these conversations about the real conversation that every human being is having and they have no idea how to get out of it but they do it's that right there man yeah build your will how do you build your will exactly what you said man exactly what you said well i feel like knowing the name of something anterior mid-singulate cortex doesn't fundamentally change us but one thing i like about biology is that willpower if somebody feels they don't have it right feels like this thing that other people have but everybody unless they're brain damaged like a hole right through their head has two anterior mid-singulate cortex, one on each side of their brain. Everyone has one. They have two. So I feel like it's just a question of opening the portal.
Friction & the “Suck”, Willpower (53:23)
And the portal, what I, again, I'm going to say 10 times and forgive me, is I think people go, oh, I do hard things. I do sets to failure and then I do four straps. I love training with weights. I love doing sets to failure. I even like four straps. But guess what? I like four straps. So I'll tell you, they don't build my anterior mid cingulate cortex. Right. Because I like to do it. That's right. Anything you like to do is not going to enhance this aspect of willpower. And it seems so obvious once you hear it, you kind of go, oh, yeah, of course. But I think you really close that loop for people of willpower and it seems so obvious once you hear it you kind of go oh yeah of course but i think you really close that loop for people when you share what you're sharing today and what you've shared elsewhere before as well when you're trying to explain the friction is the critical ingredient right and i think people think oh if it's effort well then i then I'm getting better. That's part of it. Necessary, but not sufficient, as we say in science. But the suck part, the being haunted, the stick, they're really unpleasant terms. These are probably the most unpleasant terms we've ever used on this podcast. Those are the levers. Those are the gears. And without those, this thing that you're talking about, David Goggins, as a verb, I sometimes make the joke, but it's not a joke. Goggins is a name and it's a verb. People go, I'm going a psychologist, but I think that's what you're talking about. The stick, the friction, being haunted. It's the suck part that grows this anterior mid-singulate cortex. So now you know why there's so many people that fail in this world to figure out their purpose, their purpose in life. Where do I go? Because to grow that, well, you may not look like me, how my daily life looks, but don't look fun. Don't look fun. So it's a choice that people have to make in life. But what's so funny about it is even the richest of rich who have everything, they always ask me this question. I feel like I'm missing something. I don't feel like I'm missing shit. I don't have what you all have, but you'll never in my life hear me tell you I'm missing something. Everybody is. They're missing this feeling. I found it a long time ago. I found it right there in that willpower thing. When you're nothing, nothing, and change yourself into something like me, you call it happiness, peace, whatever the fuck you want to call it, people are missing exactly what went on with David Goggins. Why don't you smile? I do. I do. But I figured something out. That's why I am never, you'll never hear me say I'm missing something. I found it years ago. You find it in the suck. You find it in the suck, and you you find it in the suck you find in this suck and you find it repeatedly in the suck to the point where you know exactly who you are most people are missing something because they don't know who they are they never examine themselves they they've never done this experiment on themselves the lab rat we're all lab rats but you're also the scientist you create your own self most people are missing something because there's so much trapped in there I don't even say potential I think that's where you got too much to there's so much in you that God or wherever the hell you believe in or if you're atheist in you that you have not un unlocked that you walk around with this gorgeous wife or great husband all this money like god i feel like i'm missing something yeah because it's about 75 of you is still in there still chained up because you just didn't want to find your willpower didn't want to find your soul your will your heart your determination your guts your courage and what that looks like it looks scary like your little scary lab i went in scary to wake up every day and say i'm stupid but i want to figure out a way to be smarter versus saying man i just can't do that so you limit this box so your box becomes so small of things you can do my box wasn't even a box it was a little like little pinhole and then through examining myself getting some willpower some courage it became bigger than this table but that's what we all do that's why i wanted to come here today and talk to you about real not no like hacks there's no hacks bro it's you against you you against you and if you misunderstand that you have a real problem real problem i can understand you misunderstand me running on the street shirt off this no yeah i can i can get it i get it if you misunderstand what i'm saying right now today the problem is you and you don't want to fix it well the children of wealthy people are a case study in how not having enough friction can destroy a life true statement i mean i could list off prominent names in the press but those are actually the least interesting what's probably more interesting as an example is all the ones we don't
Building Willpower, Brain & “No Days Off” Mentality (59:14)
hear about because we never hear about them right they just dwindle and wither or i think there's this big category of people i'm realizing as we have this conversation today that they're not super successful they're not struggling they're like successful enough that they never have to you can get to the point where you don't have to impose friction you even said it right your bank account is in a place where you don't really need to do all the things you do, probably not even a small fraction of them. Do nothing. Right. But you realize the stick and being haunted is the fuel in the engine. Right. And you'd be truly crazy to give that up because you've internalized all that. Right. But most people, they're good enough for them. Yep. And so they don't actually want to be better badly enough in order to start going wrong after wrong. Well, think about when you build willpower and think about how much I've built. Now that you know about this, I didn't know about this, but think about how much I've built. Everything I've ever done in my life, I didn't want to do. Everything, every day. I'm a lazy piece of shit. And I'm one of the hardest working people to ever step foot on this planet earth. And I'm saying that very proudly because I know what I do. It's not cocky. I'll tell you I'm stupid. And I also tell you the exact opposite of what I've done. It's the truth. It is the truth truth so imagine how much I've developed in that time frame but it's the scary thing why most people don't want to do that it build that willpower is because this scary it unlocks a whole bunch of things about who you are who you're not and a lot of people don't want to go down that journey to discover who they are who they're not and a lot of people don't want to go down that journey to discover who they are who they're not because it's it's not a pretty journey i mean i've gone down it it's not like i went down at once i go down it all the time and when you unlock that and you can't just turn it off like people say hey how come you haven't retired yet i built all this willpower do you think it's gonna let me just retire because my my knees hurt it's telling me every morning i wake up like man i don't my knees hurt mouth my legs hurt my body hurts but you can still run so why aren't you running if you can still run there'll be a time when you can't lace them up anymore but you can still run. So why aren't you running? If you can still run, there'll be a time when you can't lace them up anymore, but you can still run. So I still run. When the time comes I can't run, the body will say, you just can't run. But if I can still do something, that willpower that I have created, it makes me do it every fucking day. And that's what they don't get. What builds a human being is you start with the small building blocks. And before you know it, man, you become something that you, it doesn't even make sense to most people because it's just who you are now. That's why I can still run at 50 with broke, at 49 with broke down knees and broke down body. Because my body knows you still can therefore i do second you stop the willpower is gone and that's beautiful i'm so glad you brought that to me because i always wonder what's this separation thing now at 24 years old i started building something that i didn't even know was going to be what it is now at 49 and that's all it was was just that this structure anterior mid cingulate cortex has inputs and outputs from a bunch of places but you'll probably not be surprised to learn that it's strongly activated when we move our body when we don't want to move our body i I feel like it's like the David Goggins structure, right? It really is. It is. And it also has strong connections to the dopamine reward pathway. And everyone goes, yay, dopamine reward. Everyone loves dopamine. I'm partially responsible for people knowing a bit more about dopamine. But dopamine is badly understood. Everyone thinks dopamine, dopamine hits. It's about reward. It's about motivation and drive. And there are pain inputs to the dopamine centers of the brain. No one talks about that. Everyone's like, oh, you want the chocolate, you know, chocolate, sex, cocaine. Yeah, that's all true. You release dopamine. Pain releases dopamine. The anterior mid-singulate cortex can trigger the release of dopamine in response to this thing that we're calling friction. And that's a learned thing. That's something that no animal or human being comes into the world learning. We all are averse to pain and like pleasure, like sugar, fat, don't like hot surfaces. But this is a structure that learns. It has neuroplasticity the ability to change throughout the entire lifespan and here's the part that i think again this is just neuro nerd speak for what you already know and have done and exemplify is that it people say oh it has plasticity you can change it but guess what has plasticity in both directions it can grow but just as easily as it can grow it's like silly putty it can shrink right so it requires constant upkeep right and that answer isn't one that people are going to like nope they're like give me the energy drink give me the supplement give me the yes give me the sauna protocol that's going to make my anterior mid cingulate cortex someone out there right now is going wait if i took transcranial magnetic stimulation and i stimulate yeah you probably actually they've done that they stuck a little wire during neurosurgery into this structure this is actually discovered by a colleague of mine joe parvizi stimulate and the patients go i feel like there's a storm coming and they go oh is it scary they no, I want to go through it. They come off the stimulation and people are like, this is the seat of what we're talking about. Right, exactly. And it learns. So the fact that you kept this brain structure, I'm convinced if we image your brain, it'd be large and it would be larger in two years, a year. But this is the no days off rationale because it can grow and it can shrink. I know. What you're saying right now, I didn't know any of this. And I never, and I always talk to people, I wish I could just put this on paper. And you're saying it in a way that people can understand. I can never put into words on what i built and the power that is within all of us but you put it so like in in a scientific way most people like for me he's just crazy that's why i don't like talking about it man i know i'm not crazy i know what i had to do to get where i had to go people look at as crazy because they're people that just if you can't imagine yourself doing something if you can't imagine yourself doing something the person that's doing it is crazy because in your mind the logic behind it it doesn't compute therefore you have to give somebody a title and a title for me is usually he's crazy he's this he's that no no for some reason me wanting to be somebody so fucking bad in my life i created that and i've been trying to figure out years of my life trying to explain to people but even though you're explaining it now this is the easy part them listening to this is the easy part the part that why there will always be the ones of ones is because putting that practice practice putting that into actual work no man no no that's where the demons come in that's where you like i i don't want to be better i don't want to be this is what it takes to be better i don't want to be better so everybody's that's why there's a lot of average and it makes me so fucking mad every day i walk this earth and I see average all over the fucking place. And they want to ask me, how did you do it? I can't tell you how because you're not going to fucking, you're not going to do it. You're not going to do it. You're going to continue being average because every day you wake up, like he says, get the coffee, make the pancakes, kiss the girl, kiss the kids. You wake up, right to work. Immediately your mind is in action. No one wants to do that. No one. And I don't blame them. But don't be mad when you're laying there in your fucking bed and you're in the fucking hospital and you're 70, 80, 90 years old and you're thinking, man, I feel like I didn't fucking do something. Because you did. You didn't do it. You didn't do shit. You may live the great life, man, but you're always going to feel empty inside. I don't feel empty. So call me what you want. There's not one empty bone in my fucking body because I have figured out that really the magic potion, at least to my life, and it's very rewarding. 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Losing Weight, Challenge & Willpower (01:09:54)
People like to talk about what they used to be able to do. I hear this a lot. You should have seen me in high school. I always laugh. Yep. Yeah. OK, got it. And it's not just guys. You should see me working out in high school. I always laugh. Yep. Like, yeah, okay, got it. And it's not just guys. You should have seen me working out in high school. I was super fit. People will look back to a time where they felt like they were capable of something and now they're not. And you kind of want to just grab them and go, wait, that was you then. It's you now. But people tend to think about how the conditions that were around success must have been part of it. And you can understand why. It's like it's very rational. I was in that situation. I was successful. I'm in this situation. I'm not. That was the past. This is the present. Ergo, capable, right? You see how people get into these loops. And as you mentioned, you spent the first 20 years of your life in extremely challenged circumstances. And then you can see how people get to a point where everything feels hard. Like when you're 300 pounds, I haven't never been 300 pounds, but I can't imagine it feels good to get up and move around. It's defeating. I got a friend, he's in excess of 300 pounds. We've been trying on him for years, but no, no win. And he's got crazy psoriasis on the back of his calves. And he, he actually smells bad sometimes because he, he can't wash as well as he would. He's big, big. Right. And it pulls all my sympathy. Right. You know, but life is very hard for him and getting worse. He's a young guy with a lot of medical issues now for obvious reasons. And so I think people like that think, well, it's already hard. Why would I make it harder? Your message is a little different and you have the life experience. It's a lot different. You've been there. So for me saying, oh yeah, lose weight. You know, I was a skinny guy who got to be a less skinny guy. So I don't really have a foot to stand on. What do you say to those people who are like, listen, I'm getting up in the morning is hard. Trying to not dissolve into a puddle of my own tears and my own misery is hard. Do you know why people connect with my book so well? For some reason, God put me in almost every fucked up situation on the planet Earth. So when I talk to people, it's not sugarcoated, because I'm not saying it from I was a hundred and seventy five pounds my whole life. I don't say much to those people. Maybe you're a piece of shit. Maybe you want to be nobody. Maybe you're happy exactly where you are in life, because obviously you are. Maybe you don't have the determination to be somebody better than who you are. And if you want to live with that, I'll support you in that. If you're good with being who you are that every day you wake up and every day you smell like shit because you can't wash your body well and your skin's messed up because your health's so bad and you can't put your clothes on right you need help with that you help like when i was doing i need help wiping my ass that makes you feel good nothing i can say to you if every day you wake up with this see people are haunted but they obviously like horror films because they keep watching the same movie i don't like horror films a lot of people like horror films so i don't say much to them i say exactly what i said to you right there because i was once you i didn't like horror films so i changed it some people are just they become like you said it gets real small when you're lazy and you're fat your will their will is so small that they don't have any and you can't give it to them there has to be something this is this is what i'm talking about now because this isn't a hack this has to be in you something in you has to wake up and usually the only person that can wake it up is you sometimes you can read a david goggins book because i was all this and then a lot more of up but if you don't have a little flame, you know, just barely, you're done. I can't light it for you. And that's the harsh reality of this life that I want to get across so fucking bad. You can watch me, you can watch you, you can watch fucking Rogan and Cameron Haynes, all these motherfuckers. You can go to Tony Robbins' fucking bullshit,inson's bull all this you do all this if you you could keep going back and keep spending money and spending money and spending money with no results you can wonder wow maybe let me go try out david goggins he ain't gonna you. You have to explore, examine the insides of yourself. And what do you really want out of life? Your friend, a lot of people out here just don't fucking want it. So guess what? Have fun with your life. Go from $3,000 to $350,000 to $400,000 to $450,000 to $500,000 because you don't want it. that's the harsh reality i can't give you you can't give them and give you ideas but in the day when i was losing the weight i had to miserably wake up every morning in the cold because it was indiana november's when it started i was miserable this is your new life take it or leave it there's no happiness about it there's no peace behind it it sucks it just sucks and that's the one thing, if I could teach anybody anything, it just fucking sucks. And it's going to continue to suck. And then one day you get to a special part in your life that it might get a little bit better. But to lose the weight you had to lose, my friend, sorry, it's going to suck every fucking day. Because when you're 300 pounds you're gonna go out to lose weight you could probably get injured so then you got to work on the injury and then you get even more depressed this is what i went through and then you're hungry because now you're depressed it's it's just a vicious cycle and if you're not strong mentally and you have no willpower you're going to continue falling back in this hole versus a man that sits back and goes all right this is why i cuss because this is what is in me this is this is what it took for me to be me sorry it didn't take hey okay we're going to do this today no this really sucks this is real dude this is real and every. This is real. And every day I'm set back. I'm set back. I'm set back. I'm set back. So this is what I would tell your boy. This is exactly what I tell him. Every day you wake up, you're going to probably be set back for the first four weeks before you lose to significant weight because the mind is going to be fucking with you the whole time. There's no dopamine. There's no dopamine in there at 300 pounds you got nothing your hormones are shot you have to envision something that is more powerful than you something has to get you out of bed and you have to create it it has to be false because you're not it you're a fat piece of shit. And that's the reality of it. So you have to create a false reality to live in that just to get to work on yourself. That's the reality. He'll see this and he'll appreciate that message. We'll see what he does. So far, last 13 years, it's been no movement. so so far last 13 years it's been no movement but i've had other friends who uh who were drug and alcohol addicts who quit after one conversation never went back that's awesome i mean they they want it yeah just one one guy i won't out him but walked up to me at a party in 2019 july fourth party and said uh i'm a pile and I go what he goes. I'm a pile look at me I'm 60 pounds overweight. I go do you drink he goes every day I go how much he goes a case He goes I smoke a lot of weed, but he's successful in other areas of his life And so I said well, here's what I know quit alcohol and weed for you. You know, I'm not telling people what to do Don't eat until 2 p.m Get on an exercise bike and pedal in the morning. Like someone's chasing you with a poison dart till you want to puke. And I was kind of half joking, right? And then two months later, he's like, I haven't had a drink. I lost 30 pounds. He lost 60 pounds. He never went back. Now he's super fit. It's amazing. So some people flip the switch.
Self-Criticism & Discipline; Recovery; Stutter & Building Confidence (01:18:47)
He is very self-critical by nature. That's what flips the switch. He's super self-critical. Yep. That's what flips the switch. Yeah. Think about it, man. We know what to do. We don't need Angie Schuberman to tell us what to do. We know what to do. Every one of us. That's why he flipped it so fast, because tell us what to do. We know what to do, every one of us. That's why he flipped it so fast, because he knew what to do. He didn't go by your exact protocol. He didn't go by the exact, no, he knew exactly what to do. And you just saying some shit to him, it woke something up, but he knew what to do. And that's the thing that people need to get that. You know what to do, why aren't you doing it? And I'm talking about myself now, those modes of just kind of passive consumption, they're so easy to wash over us. I used to have this thing and I'm fighting this now because I knew we were gonna have this conversation today where I like to start things on the hour or the half hour. Worst practice in the world for me because if I miss that half hour, I'm like, it's 1233. I'll start at 1245. It's 1245, I'll start at one. I just lost time. So this is so stupid. And the other day I was like, man, I just lost time. And then, and so this is so stupid, right? And the other day I was like, man, I gotta tell David about this. Cause my new thing is I start no matter what time it is. If I wake up in the middle of the night, I got a friend he paints in the middle of the night. I'm like, you're an insomniac? He's like, I don't know, I just do it. Then sometimes he goes back to sleep, sometimes he doesn't. Everyone's got their thing, but I thought about this. I'm like, I'm no more am I gonna say I'm starting at one because i i know me right if i miss the one o'clock ding right and my pen's not hitting the paper i'm not typing on the keyboard i'm not gonna do it like that that's a self-admitted weakness i love it man um i had that for a lot of years um i know I'm gonna do it that's the haunting part is that it's going to happen it has to happen and that's a fact like there's no get out of jail free car bro none like that is a life that I don't know I don't I don't have that ability or I have the ability I don't have the ability or I have the ability. I don't have the, I'm not good enough, smart enough. I'm not talented enough to do that. Some people are, some people can start at one. Some people don't have to start at all. If you lack talent, you can't sit back and say, I'll start in half an hour. I can't do that. I gotta start now. And after I get back from starting, I gotta start again. And then when I get done with that run or that study session, if it wasn't good enough, I gotta go back again. Cause repetition is what taught me everything. So you can honestly outwork anything, but it's that you obviously are a very talented man. Well, I have worked hard at certain things and built up some things that I've been good at most of my life. You're amazing. Gathering, organizing, and disseminating information, something I've been doing since I was a little kid. I used to give lectures at school on Monday about stuff I learned over the weekend. See, check that out. But they took me to a psychiatrist. We're the same age. Back then, if you got sent to a psychiatrist, people thought you were crazy. I wasn't one. Yeah, exactly. I wasn't one. Exactly. So I remember feeling like a freak. I also, I didn't have a stutter, but I had a grunting tick. It comes back when i'm tired and the only thing that helped that was hitting my head on something shaking my head which is why skateboarding was good because i'd slam and i'd feel like i feel good that's not healthy you know that's not good or just work work is what gets it out it's like it's like a rpm or high you know anyway that's me. But yeah, I think certain things over time, I feel like talent or gifts or whatever you want to call them, but there are many things that are exceedingly difficult for me. And I, and I have learned from your example. I know that you are very, both humble and very clear that like, you don't have, you say, I don't, you're not going to get it by examining you. But I think the way you're sharing today and the way you shared on other podcasts before, there are pieces that really help people feel into the process of what you're talking about today. We're elaborating on it. I think a lot, you know, this notion of being haunted in the stick. I mean, of course, of course, now it makes so much sense why you don't want to talk about sleep or rest or recovery because that's sure that's important i've heard you say yes you sleep yes you eat yes you hydrate yes you you will stretch your psoas or whatever but it's funny how that becomes the viral message that's why i said that but that's not the unique that's not the the unique message that you carry like anyone can talk about that so do i have that right that you're acknowledging sleep is important recovery is important but that's not what you're about you have to forgo something yes ice baths saunas sleep nutrition all this so important dude i don't have time for some of it. To get to extract what I had to extract, something I had to give. Like you talk about you when you were younger, you would give these speeches and stuff. The same age you were giving speeches, I was trying to figure out how to say the without stuttering. And I realized as I got older that all these things are important. But for me to stop stuttering, I got to build fucking confidence. And speech therapy didn't help that. Nothing helped that. I have to forego a lot of shit to be as fucked up as I am to build confidence. For me to stand in a fucking room of 10,000, of one person and not, be like, oh, put my head down, let me look around, let me read these paragraphs first and then before I read the paragraphs, cause they're calling me next, let me just leave the room kind of with stutter. That's a miserable life. And that's one of many things I did, besides lying, besides being insecure besides being immature besides being fat besides being one of the only black kids in my school there's a lot of things i had to overcome to gain confidence and in doing so a lot of that had to go a lot of it so i became the guy that became once again misunderstood you only see four hours a day two hours a day sometimes you don't sleep at all like what's this and what's this and what's this I know it's all important I can't something's got to go for me to get confidence because confidence is the building block of where I'm trying to go for me to gain confidence in myself this fucked up kid has got to do a lot of go for me to gain confidence in myself this up kid has got to do a lot of up to gain confidence and along the way the stutter went away and i gained confidence and now my life is a little bit more there's no balance there's no balance it's a little bit more what it should be for a lot of people, but there'll never be balance because confidence is something that you constantly... Confidence and belief, you're building every day. And so something's got to give. And I'm willing to forego a lot of things to have that because I know that is... If you want to give somebody kryptonite, take that shit away from them. So yeah, I don't sleep sometimes, and sometimes I don't eat the right way, and sometimes I don't do this and do that and whatever, man. But you put me in a room with 10,000 people any time of the day, and I walk in there thinking I'm the baddest motherfucker in here because I know what it took to be on this stage. A lot of people would not do that. So that's what it takes. There's a question I've been wanting to ask you since we started and i thought about coming in here and i've been thinking about in the weeks ahead of this and i'm going to just come clean and say i don't exactly know how to ask the question just ask so it's about relationships oh do it.
Relationships & Honest Conversations, People Pleasing (01:26:45)
So I know in myself that my discipline is much higher when it's just me. But that's because I had certain things early on, but then I was a terrible student, barely finished high school. But then when I got serious, I got serious, but I did that by staying away from everybody. And anyone who's ever had a relationship of any kind, but in particular romantic relationships, knows that yes, you can derive tremendous support from those. Like, you got this baby, you can go in. You're like, yeah, I got this. She said, I got this. You know, it feels great to finish something and share with someone, share a meal, you know, get the hug. But there's another side to all of that that I'd like to learn more about from you, which is there's a warm body next to you in bed in the morning you don't want to get up they also have needs you've got your mission that people sometimes need things from us but also oftentimes the people that love us most that truly love us and that want to support us oftentimes the people that love us most, that truly love us and that wanna support us, don't understand this thing. And they're the first people to tell us like, "'Listen, take a day off.'" And then this whole cycle, at least in my head goes off, like you just want a vacation. And then it's almost like a paranoia. I'm not saying anything nice about myself right now. Right, all good, man. Former girlfriends are gonna be like, "'Yeah,' like, you know, they remember. And so support of people close to you is critical. This could be friends, could be romantic partners, whatever. But they're also, the knife cuts both ways. It can be the thing that can really undermine this thing that you're talking about, because the people that care about us also wanna see us comfortable. They wanna see us happy, they wanna see us peaceful. They wanna see us wake up from a great night's sleep and they want things too right so how do you untangle that whole bit well it's funny man i'm unbalanced but i'm mostly unbalanced towards the family side so you don't get about me i start being unbalanced i get all my stuff in but what i do is i make sure that my family has everything they need. Everything they need. Those who want to be part of my family. Some don't. Some family members don't want to be part of David Goggins. I get it. I got it. That's life. Those who are part of my family, I give them everything they need so they can leave me the fuck alone. I make sure you're happy as fuck because I got to go to work. I give them everything they need so they can leave me the fuck alone. I make sure you're happy as fuck because I got to go to work. And I don't mean smoke jumping. I don't mean running. I mean all of it. It takes every... I can't have you in my fucking shit. Can't. So I know for me to have a family, I got to make sure that you realize I'm going to give you everything you need. So when you start bitching at me i'm gonna say look hang on i dedicated my life to give you everything you need i need this time right here for me to be the best i can be because this journey started without anybody and i make sure everybody knows that who comes in my life i've been left think about it i was left alone as long at a young age to figure this out i figured it out for myself and it's been very successful for myself no one's going to come in here and with my that's why i make sure i will take care of whatever you need whatever you need from me you got it money house my love my support i'm gonna give you everything you need that said i do at the highest level possible and i'm saying it with jennifer in the next room so please come here and say something if it's wrong jennifer i don't give a say what you gotta say so then when it's time for me to go to work i expect you to do the same for me. Because it takes every bit of me to do what I have to do. So I make sure that I'm very unbalanced for my family so I can be exactly that unbalanced for myself. And that's how I do it. I let people know right up front, I'm not what you want in a man. I guarantee that. There's gonna be a lot of late nights, a lot of early mornings, a lot of times where I gotta be by myself, thinking about the process that is next in my mind. I can't have aggravation, I can't have this, can't have that, there's a lot of things, but I let them know up front. I'm very vocal about that. Sometimes relationships work for me me sometimes they didn't but that's who i am one thing i did wrong in my life was i tried for so many years to please people and i did it at the expense of myself i was leaving a lot in the tank. And when you do that, you stop living. But the person in your life is happy as fuck because you're giving them everything they want. Their life is full, but you feel empty. And that's not a relationship to me. So for me, it's important that you know exactly who I am because this is what life made. And I'm not trying to change it because I just figured it out. So I'm not trying to compromise David Goggins. I will never, ever compromise David Goggins. That doesn't mean I won't give you what you need and what you want and what you desire. But I don't need money. I don't need fame. I don't need money i don't need fame i don't need so i give it all away what i do need is to make sure that that willpower is worked on every day and every night for the rest of my life because that's the one thing that's gonna keep me feeding you keeping you where you need to be because once that willpower is gone 300 pound david goggins he may not be look like it but i will walk around with it so the things that are important to you in life you must do always or you're nobody and that's how i handle relationships amen to that something i could personally work on is that upfront, clear communication. Because it resonates that feeling of like there's something inside that's not getting worked out that when I'm on my own, it's a lot easier. But then, of course, wanting relationships and family. I think that's a healthy part of being human, too. Obviously, you've worked it out. So I appreciate you sharing that. I don't think I've ever heard you talk about it that way before. worked it out so i appreciate you sharing that i don't think i've ever heard you talk about it people that way before man people are scared of that conversation with their wife husband girlfriend boyfriend but why are you scared of it why are you scared to tell a your wife your husband who you are who you are exactly who you are and that was you are. And that was a problem I had. That's a problem that a lot of us have in life. No one knows who you really are. No one knew who I really was. I went to a school where there were a lot of black kids. A lot of black kids didn't want to be in special ops. I never talked about special ops to black kids. Why? I was wondering what, I'm not going to fit in that's not what they do a lot of black kids don't do that kind of so whatever i wanted to do no one really knew the real me growing up because i never want anybody to know the real me i was always afraid of what you might say or how you're going to feel or whatever you got feelings You have a life that you have to live. So it's important that whatever's on your mind, you let that person know, therefore you're giving them the option to be with you or not. This is who I am. If you don't like it, that's good, man. I got it. But this is David Goggins. So that honest conversation is very important, man. So everybody knows where they stand. That person may not be for you. That's all good. This world could use a lot more of that upfront, completely honest conversation.
Self-Reflection & Empowerment (01:34:49)
I feel like so much of the world's problems are because everyone's dancing around these issues. It takes a lot. Recently in the news, seeing people losing their job because they won't say something publicly. You can tell they kind of want it. It's like people just, I think deep down really crave the direct message. Like, what are you about? What are you not about? But I think now everyone's afraid of getting canceled. It's a big deal, right? You know, getting canceled that people think, oh, I can't work if I am who I am or if I'm not pretending to be somebody else then you know silence is considered you know agreement you know there's all sorts of complicated stuff and i i do feel for the generation coming up because we didn't have social media right and all of that that getting just walled off from that there's a real benefit from just not paying attention people love to lie people love to lie you know i thought i was the only person when i was growing up i thought i was the only person that lied because i live in the bubble and people love to lie about who they're not they love to lie about who they're not dude and that's for me the reason why i'm so vulnerable and i'm so real and honest find somebody come out tell me i'm lying about my honest, find somebody to come out and tell me I'm lying about my fucking life. And for me to come where I came from and have the resume I have now, you know the confidence you get? How I don't care who, you're going to judge me? You're going to judge me? What have you done in your life? So me being so honest and so upfront and so truthful that came with me finally figuring out who I was but also conquering David Goggins the demons of David Goggins therefore now you're just an open book you look at somebody looking right now tell me exactly the fuck you are you walk away I'm good broke I know exactly what this journey took to get here and that gives you a fire and a passion that people can call you they can call you if you're a lesbian or gay or bisexual call you whatever you want if you put yourself in the fire and you come out every day like this brush it off not scared to go back in there again come on man your truth is real you come out every day man with a way of talking to people that people don't have because there's no truth behind them and the truth is a starting line when you sit in an ugly mirror and say i'm this i'm this and this and this you finally started your life maybe 40 years old maybe 40 years old five six kids wife the second you look in that mirror and you say i'm this i'm this i'm this i'm this i'm this well basically i'm not this i'm not this i'm not this i can't do this i can't do this i'm all these insecurities your life finally started and once you start that life man the truth comes out big time you don't care so that's the problem most people just don't want to have that conversation to the point where they can go on stage with a million people and say, I'm all of this and have a good day. See ya. It's empowering. It's very empowering. I feel like the way we're educated in school, but also outside of school, is we're trained as human beings, these young brains, to try and figure out how to get positive feedback from other people. It's like we're like little dogs. You have a bulldog. That's right. I had a bulldog. I saw the picture of your bulldog. She's great. Charlie dog. They're an amazing species. They are. I think of them, economy of effort. Yep. Or amazing breed, excuse me. They're an amazing breed. They are. I think of them economy of effort. Yep. Or amazing breed, excuse me. They're an amazing breed. Economy of effort. They don't do anything unless it's necessary. It's kind of the exact opposite of everything we're talking about. It's kind of interesting and they're kind of hedonist. Now it is true that they will, they'll die to protect you. Oh yeah. And it's an instinct. I saw that with Costello, I'm sure that's... I saw it with Charlie. Yeah. It's an instinct. I saw that with Costello. I'm sure that's... I saw it with Charlie. Yeah, it's an instinct. But if they're not in that position, if there's no need to exert effort... They're resting. Yeah. So your bulldog is resting for you. Yes. Got it. Exactly. So you don't need to rest because... Active recovery, Charlie. Perfect. That's it. Perfect. That's going to be your answer from now on. People go, does he sleep? Does he rest? No, he somehow worked it out so his bulldog does it for him right but we're sort of indoctrinated into this way of being from a time that we're young where of course praise feels good right someone tells you hey i like that shirt or good job today or nicely done or for me because i like growing up in a big pack of friends growing up and i was never the great staff it wasn't terrible wasn't great etc like a fist bump or like feeling crewed up and you're just like yeah but you've talked about this before in reference to the seal teams we both know a lot of people in that community and the team's component is a big part of it for a lot of people and it's a wonderful thing right But there's a danger to that dopamine hit, for lack of a better way to put it, from what we only derive when it's coming from outside.
Unseen Work, Real Passion & Purpose, Medicine Cabinet Analogy (01:39:06)
You're talking about being able to either say good job, but also just look to one's own personal history and say, I've done hard things and I can do it again and again, because I do it again and again and again. You're talking about parenting yourself, inspiring yourself, scaring yourself, all of that from the inside. So very different than the way we're raised, which is to figure out how to get the biscuit. It's funny, man. People want to know how I'm always motivated. It's the unseen work, which Jesus says is a true statement. Those are false dopamine hits that people are giving you, man. There's no belief in that. These are teamwork dopamine. Like, I'm out running at 2 o'clock in the morning, 1 o'clock in the morning, in theclock in the morning in the gym long sessions by myself you that's real how I'm able to just extract dopamine the good dopamine whenever I want man I've trained 99 of my life alone no one pat me on the back i did all of the work alone and while i'm still hard on myself i know what i did so whenever times get bad people all this who's gonna carry the boats and that's real i hate that people know me for that guy because that guy is not every day like when they see me they want that energy that's not me every fucking day. Like when they see me, they want that energy. That's not me every day. I can extract it immediately when I need to, because when you train alone, and I lived alone for so many years in this misery, and you're able to get out of it by yourself, I can take myself to such a level of real, real passion and purpose. And like the feeling I get is something I can't even explain by myself I don't need anyone that's why that's why people come to me to motivate them no one can motivate me I have a resume full of fucking motivation that whenever I'm down like oh hang on motherfucker oh you know you know the truth you know that you you know the darkness of the dungeons and the demons that fly you know and then from there it's like okay you were there you know this there was no one there to pick up the rucksack to pick up the boat to pick up the log to go in there it was you it was you there was no pat on the back at 300 at 275 at 250 at 220 no that was you so those things that come out of me that extract from me in the darkness people are looking for that pat on the back where is it oh i don't need it because what i've done is in the fucking unseen work. I built Frankenstein. So whenever shit gets nasty, David Goggins goes, you had nobody anyway, motherfucker. So see how I'm talking to myself right now? That's me. That shit fires me the fuck up. That shit makes me fucking nuts. You had nobody anyway, motherfucker. Look around you. There was no fucking team it was you there was no weight loss program or mom and dad waking you up saying you can do it you can be better trying to build belief you built belief when you had nothing rock bottom you did that. So as times get hard for me, the truth comes out. And my truth is powerful as fuck. It's real. It's tangible. I feel it. It comes out of my brain as I speak about it. I'm reliving every single dark moment of my life to be here. So that is what people don't get. That is what motivates David Goggins is the unseen work. Everybody needs that pat on the back. They need that training partner. They need that accountability coach. I don't need that shit. And neither do they. But it's what we've trained ourselves to believe that we need. It's almost like there's this pill on the shelf. I'm speaking in analogy. Right. And we take it and we get jazzed up. We're like, yeah. But there's this other medicine cabinet behind there and it's in us. You're saying the real medicine cabinet is inside. Oh, yes. When you continue to overcome, and I had so many obstacles to overcome, so it's actually a benefit to me, but the benefit is not like a benefit like that. You have to have the courage and the patience to overcome and overcome. Before you know it, man, you have a whole medicine cabinet, but there's no medicine in the motherfucker. There's no pre-workout. I don't take none of that shit. There's no pre-workout. I don't take none of that shit. All I got to do is flip my brain, put my finger in there and say, okay, that's a good one. That's all I got to do, man. I got the Rolodex of just like, go fuck yourself, Goggins. And, oh, but you won. Let's do that one today. There's nothing I need. And this is the thing that people don't get about David Goggins. I can't teach it in a one-minute video. We all have this ability to have our own medicine cabinet. But unless you go in there and put the medicine in there, it's always going to be fucking empty, man. You're always gonna need to pre-workout. You're always gonna need to, I don't drink coffee. I don't do, I don't do none of that. I don't need it. I can run for 70 hours and I had before no caffeine. I got all this wonderful shit that I overcame on my own, by myself in the darkness. That man, when it's cold i'm hot when it's hot like i i can feed myself all the time that's why when people say man why aren't you missing anything i can't explain it to you man can't explain it to you you'll never understand that's why i don't do all these podcasts dude i got I love you, man. That's why my first book, you did a blurb for me. That's why I'm here. I love what you're doing for people, man, but I can't explain this. I can't. I can't explain this because people don't want to do this. They don't want to do this, man, but I don't know, man. I get jazzed up even talking about it, man, because so many people think my life is just so, oh, God, his life is horrible. Don't follow him. He's crazy. Really? But there are a good number of people, I would say, and that's an understatement, that actually do.
Addressing Personal Challenges And Finding Purpose
Feeling Lost, Self-Reflection & Individual Process (01:46:32)
There are. I think what I'm hearing today, and it's really sinking in, is that a great many people either partially or completely misunderstand you. Yes. Big time. I'll put myself in the partially category. Big time. Because I thought it was about just a forward center of mass, carrot, carrot, carrot, carrot, but it's the stick. It's the stick. And it's being haunted. And, you know, I do have examples from my own life, which is not what today's about, about being really afraid and then turning things around. My biggest fear is getting comfortable. I do not have as much of a stick-oriented approach, but today's conversation's changing the way I think. I'm not gonna step away from this and think, okay, there are 25 neural circuits that can explain 10 of the things that David's talking about. And what I'm thinking about is the fact that everybody has a brain, they have a mind. Forget the brain, the brain is just the physical structure. But what that manifests, what that creates is the mind. And everybody has that. So I do believe that everyone has the capacity to do what you're talking about at some level. I also will be the first to confess that I think you're a highly unusual, let's just say, maybe even N of one as we say in science, sample size of one. Somebody who has created this process for themselves and keeps them in this, themselves in this forward center of mass with the stick, battering the back of their head all the time. Right. Highly unusual. But this internal medicine cabinet that you're talking about building up, true confidence, not needing anything from the outside. I think, I like to think that people want that. They want to be known. They're afraid, but that they want to be known for who they really are and that you're describing the path to do this. And I will say I'm immensely grateful that you're talking to us this way today about things that you've talked about before, but we're hitting it a little differently, I like to think. Very different. Because what you're talking about is a process it's verbs it's all verbs all action and it's not about success it's more actually about keeping that friction dialed to 10. right and that i no energy drink no supplement people often misunderstand me they think you know like i'm big on people getting sunlight in the morning so you set their circadian rhythm and get better sleep as they get et cetera but then people always think they go straight to the supplements yeah what should i take you know and then of course people think i'm all about supplements supplements are one piece for me but it's like tiny fraction compared to the the doing the do's and don'ts that's why i want to talk about that today that's why i'm glad we're talking about this this is it this is it like the brain is the most powerful weapon in the world and it's crazy how a kid that wasn't real smart i was forced to go only internal external had to go away the external world had to go away and living so deep inside myself it was me in this brain and figuring out how this thing works and it's so many people are doing exactly that the supplements to this to that I agree it helps but once you figure out your your brain you become unstoppable to almost anything. Yeah, you can't beat death, you can't whatever, whatever. Your brain's amazing. Once you feed it the right conversation, the right mental nutrients, the right mental supplements, the right internal dialogue at the right time with the right hit, with the right proof of what you've done in the past, and you send that right to the right circuit, dude, you're a fucking beast. A beast. But once again, you just can't read about it. You can't sit back and be a theorist. You have to be a fucking practitioner. And in that practice is where that becomes proof positive. What I'm saying is like, God, David Goggins, he's blowing my mind. What is this? He's not crazy. crazy and so many people a lot of people have listened to me the right way and they come back and they're like I'm totally on board I it happened it happened I'm like it'll keep going man if you keep doing it but that is it man there's no sun there's no glory there's no carrot there's no victory but there is all of it in one i can't explain it real well to people man but what you get the other end is something that you're not you're always found you're never lost anymore doesn't mean the journey's easy doesn't get any easier but you're always found i love that i just want to hover on that for a sec the same way we hovered on haunted and the stick i think people feel lost i've certainly felt lost at times in my life um many times and yeah there's that thing i don't think there's a neuroscience or a psychology term for it someone will say put it in the comments and say, Oh, yeah, that's what so-and-so said. But like you said, we're not trying to be theoretical here. We're trying to be practical. The business of finding yourself and knowing like, but it's sort of like I'm safe because I'm in danger and I've been in danger before and I got myself out. It always, always seems to come back to verbs. Again, I don't have a language for this. For once, I'm lost for words. It's about a process, the algorithm. And the reason here, I'm just trying to make sure I'm understanding things correctly. One of the reasons why it must be uncomfortable for you to be who you are publicly is because people want to focus on the running or the swearing. And by the way, the swearing is welcome. I'll tell you, I came up through laboratories where all three people I worked for swore a lot, but there was one rule. I couldn't swear at people. So my graduate advisor, brilliant woman, unfortunately she died early. They all died early. I'm the common denominator. I had that internalized for a long time. Anyway, she said, but if you swear at people, you're out. But you can swear as much as you want. So that's the rule I have. It's like you can swear as much as you want, just don't swear at people. And if you swear at people, better be ready to fight. I'm definitely not going to fight you. So you can swear at me, get away with it. But the fact of the matter is that it must be frustrating that people, because I know people go, oh, it's all about supplements and ice baths. Listen, I like supplements. I love supplements and ice baths. But that's not the full picture. They're just a gravitational pull. It's the swearing. It's the running. It's his feet that are all messed up. It's the fact that he got a Triton. It's this seal guy. You can talk about that too right you know and there's a gravitational pull for people and they're missing like the that's like the tip of the iceberg is what i'm realizing i'm realizing that today thanks to the way you're phrasing things because the bigger vessel is all in here and as you said how do you put that in a book it's impossible because it's highly individual. You do it your way. Yes. And you're saying everyone needs to go figure out how to do it their way for them. Yes. And the thing about being misunderstood is very frustrating.
Challenges & Two Internal Voices, Misunderstood (01:54:11)
More than I can even imagine. I can't even express how frustrating it is. When the cussing and everything comes from a place of real. I can't explain what I do without it. The passion comes out of me. It's almost like speaking in tongues because when you put that much work and people go, oh yeah, there's been this basketball player, this football player, this... Dude, no, no. player this dude no no everything everything is work everything and people don't believe it so when i speak the motherfucker and the and the fuck and and shit and that is what it took for me what it takes for me the anger the passion the the the the jaw dropping just it takes that because i'm not that this is how i look at it man what built this guy? Let's imagine being in the coldest water you can possibly take. I always go back to Hell Week with this. I hated that water. Hated it. You're sitting there locked in arms, and you're in the water all the time. And they're bringing you in and out of the water. In and out of the water. When you have this dialogue in your head, and these people are judging me off of a freaking one-minute video and you're constantly your whole life when you figure it out 24 that I got a I just gotta this fucking god and this is just gonna suck every day it's gonna suck and live like that to be better and I put way. I'm in the water. The water's going over my head. The Pacific Ocean, you know, is freezing. February, cold as shit. Been through three hell weeks. For you to constantly win, win, win, when this voice over here, the real you, is saying, get the fuck out of here. Go. You're nobody. you've always been nobody and it's true people don't hear that that's a true voice that's the real reality of david goggins at 24 years old it's not a false reality and then you had to create another voice over here that is saying you're better than that other voice and you're in the freezing cold water that both voices don't want to be in but you win and goes from the water to the studying to the running to losing weight to how you eat to how you function as a man every day of your life you're winning these battles and then i have normal people who only have one voice never created the second voice the winning voice is the second voice they have one voice and that's just I'm a piece of shit. And that's all they hear. And then they judge people like me who are out here trying to be better. It's something that I can never really, it's a frustrating thing for me. Because I know the majority of people. I know what goes goes on the brain cuz I studied the mind more than almost more than you because I wasn't I'm a practitioner so for you to be a piece of shit and come out of that you don't just come out of it you spend decades studying your mind in the human mind on how it functions in good environments bad environments stressful environments patient environment you studied all because you had to put all this together to create the mind to become successful so I had to look God bless me with this brain I had to create a mind. And so in doing so, I figured out every piece of shit human being in the world, because that's what I was going off of for myself. So I know why you go on Instagram. I know why you, because you just have the time. You have the time because you don't want to put that time into bettering oneself so i know why i'm misunderstood i'm misunderstood by people who have plenty of time on their hands to misunderstand me because they are exactly where i once was which is a low-life lazy piece of it's the harsh reality of people who troll you, who go after you. They have nothing better to do with your lives. It's not some afterschool special. It's the truth by once was that way. I know where it all comes from. That's why it's frustrating me now because I'm not so frustrated at the fact that I'm being trolled. I'm frustrated by the fact that you don't have the courage the courage to try to be somebody better than what you're not and that's the frustrating part it's interesting because earlier we were talking about relationships and you said in a very candid way and i really appreciate you sharing that that you make sure that the people close to you your family has everything they need right and that they make sure that the people close to you, your family has everything they need. Right.
Running, Smoke Jumping; Success; Willpower & Perishable Skills (01:59:32)
And that they also understand that you're going to take what you need to continue to build you. Right. Period. Period. In some ways, it seems you've also included the general public in that family. You're saying, listen, I'm going to give you what you need. I'm going to give you as much of myself as I can, except I'm going to stop right at the need. I'm going to give you as much of myself as I can, except I'm going to stop right at the line that if I were to cross it, is going to prevent me from continuing to build myself. And by the way, this relationship only exists because I don't cross that line. That's right. And I think as much as there are detractors out there, people that try, right? I mean, it's pretty, whatever they're doing is pretty feeble in my mind. I mean, it's pretty, whatever they're doing is pretty feeble in my mind. I mean, it's like cap gun fire, you know, if that, you know, so many of us, men and women, old and young, hear something and feel something in your message. Like, yeah, like, it seems kind of crazy. Gosh, like, doesn't he ever just relax? You know, what about his sleep? You know, look at his feet. He's gonna injure himself. I've heard, listen, I'll be very direct. I got friends who were in the teams who just go, yeah, what's he gonna do when he can't run? And I know the answer is keep running. That's right. Right, but it's more comfortable for people, even high achievers. Especially high achievers. To believe that if you took one thing away, that it would all go away. It's absolutely clear that's not the case with you. I'm 100% convinced. I just know that because what we're talking about is this. Do you know how many times I haven't been able to run? Two heart surgeries, multiple knee surgeries. And after every knee surgery, they say, you're not gonna run again. And I'm fine with that. There's no running up here bro none this was what it was all about that's what they lost or if you can't run give a it was never about running why do you think i run it's the worst thing i i hate doing it more than anything hence the willpower. Right. Your anterior mid-singulate cortex would be, would start to regress if you loved running. Think about it. Every day I wake up, I don't just run a mile, two miles. It's the one thing I hate the most to do. And I do it like I love it. 250, 60, 700, 300 mile runs at one time no sleep in every step when I get to think about this I get to the fucking start line cussing at Jennifer why the fuck am I here I hate this shit after 70 some hours of running every fucking question I ever had is answered. Every question I had is answered. I cap success. I don't, people go, we mean you cap success. For me to be who I am, so when I go smoke jump, I smoke jump three to four months out of the year, sometimes five. Could you, just for those that aren't educated, just like give us a brief description of what smoke jumping entails. So basically you jump into fires, not into them, but you jump by fires that people can't get to. So out of planes and helicopters. Right, out of planes. Fast lines. It's all parachuting. So you parachute out of airplanes, and then you fight the fire. You and sometimes four other guys or maybe eight other guys, guys and gals, and you're putting this fire out. So I lose millions of dollars every summer to do this. It blows people's minds. Why the hell are you doing this and you're breathing so i'm being knees are jacked up hitting the ground hurting whatever talking to normal people that never get it so i don't even explain it to them but this is why this is why i call cap success i'm talking financial success. For me to continue having that willpower, the second I just become a speaking monkey and travel around and speak in gigs 12 months out of the year, put camps on, do this, put on lectures, get supplement lines and do this and write more books and shit, I've ruined the exact thing I worked on my entire life. And while I didn't know it until the day, but something always told me, this is a very, very, very perishable skill, this willpower that you have, because I do have a willpower that I have never seen in anybody in my life. It is a haunting force that just keeps me going and i know that that is my strength if you have that so that's worth every dime i've ever made in my life is the fact i can look at man the eye finally and have a real conversation without going like this because i'm lying or i'm a piece of or i know you know how a person and so many people do this they're talking to you on who they want to be they're lying to you and they walk away i've done it so many times you walk away like god man why can't i just tell him the truth why the hell can i just tell him the truth no good it feels for me now to look at you in your eye and every man a man i see because we won't get this women will not get this man to man that man when you look another man eye and you know that everything you're saying is real and it comes from a real working place something that you earned it's the best feeling in the world you can say that actually happened like i know with certainty what i'm saying actually actually happened who i am and who i say i am i am no more lies no more skirt in the truth no more and that is worth every dime i've ever made in my life. And I swear to God on that. Every dime I've ever made in my life, building who I built. So I cap success because I know that if I ever go 12 months out of the year and don't put several, every day I'm going at it, but several months out of the year, I go right back to ground zero, which means I'm just at it, but several months out of the year, I go right back to ground zero, which means I'm just fucking David Goggins. No Goggins, no carry boats, fucking logs bullshit. It's just pick up that fucking Pulaski and dig. Hey, get that fucking pump, walk down a mile, put it in the fucking water, mosquito's beating. you're just David Goggins. You're nobody, because that's where my growth is. That's where my willpower comes from. And that's where it stays. That's why when I talk to you now, and I talk like this, dude. People don't talk with this kind of passion because it ain't there. It ain't there. They're regurgitating some shit from 30 fucking years ago. I'm regurgitating shit from an hour ago. Hour ago. Come on, man. It's just, be real. And I can't be on these podcasts, I can't talk to anybody without being real. I'll go away. I'll just go away. Because I can't give you what I want to give you. You said perishable skill.
Self-Reflection & Action, Distractions (02:07:04)
I think that's another word, set of words I want to highlight because skill implies behavior. And when we were just talking a second ago about the deep, true bedrock sense of confidence that comes from looking someone in the eye and telling somebody something that you absolutely know it's true because it happened. You're talking about actions, not talking about perceptions. You're not talking about what you believe happened. You know it happened. And there's something really concrete about actions. I mean, that's what's so interesting is we're talking about the mind, but actions are the manifestation of the mind. And the stuff that just stays in here, people die with that. It doesn't go anywhere. Long ago, somebody said, I forget what the context was, was a neuroscientist. He said, most emotions, they're just emotions. They're just in there. You don't have to do anything with them. And I think certain emotions you want to do something with. But I think people forget this. They feel miserable, like they're going to dissolve into a puddle of their own tears. No one ever died from an emotion. But they feel like they overwhelm us as if it's a tidal wave that's going to pull us under and drown us. It's so interesting to me because I think what people... Listen, you have a gravitational pull. People can feel the energy. I think yes, you're either completely badly or partially understood. There's only one guy on the planet that truly understands you. I think there's one woman, Jennifer, who probably understands you as much as anyone's going to. And then the rest of us are kind of grasping, trying to figure it out. But you're saying go inward. So first go inward, and then it's actions. Inward and actions. Now the inward piece is something I'd like to just spend a little bit of time on because there are a couple of characters from history, people that were in concentration camps. Nelson Mandela. I mean, I'm not sure he had Instagram in there. I'm pretty sure he didn't. And I don't think there was anyone coaching him on like, hey, you're gonna get out someday and actually you're gonna lead an entire country. I'm pretty sure that's not how it worked he had to find it here he had to find it between his ears right and there are other examples but that's an important one so the process of going inward does it for you and here i will ask for suggestions because i think people want there are those of us who want to build this skill. Wall yourself off, phone off for big portions of the day perhaps. Texting off, the requests, the this, the that. Anyone that knows you knows that we've communicated a few texts, but most of it comes through a filter. She's great. She knows you, and she've communicated a few texts, but most of it comes through a filter. She's great. She knows you, you know, and she knows how to protect your time. And that hurts people's feelings. People get mad about that. Hey, God bless. God bless you, Jennifer, you know. Cutting oneself off when you're in there, you say it's just you. And the voices that come up are not pleasant and then at some point it converts to action okay how much what is the process of picking the action that's the piece that i feel like we there's like a a bridge to build here if you can if you would so they actually mean like like like what's next yeah so what like when you go go to sleep at night when that happens you know what you're going to do the next day it's pre-planned yes okay yes it's it's always the same thing you're not building it on the fly no nothing's on the fly nothing so how it works internally for me is i'm i put it exactly how it is i'm an artist and every day i'm putting i'm painting mona lisa every day and but it's a different one it's not the same painting so every day i wake up you know do the same thing it takes a different way to get there so every day in my mind i'm going through my mind i'm just like and a good painter will not just paint he needs to create and you can't create the phones and everything going around you so you got to block yourself off you only do two podcasts in a year you block yourself off and you're and you're painting this thing inside and you're going through all these different colors of paint and everything else. And you can only figure out the right painting if you spend the correct amount of time in your brain. So every single day, I'm literally going with my mind and I'm painting, I'm creating this masterpiece. And the masterpiece is always myself. But to do that, you cannot have any distractions because if you're talking to an artist and he's trying to think about the next painting he can't so it's impossible to listen to you and listen to what your mind and body are telling you we must do people don't do enough of they don't do any of it you're they don't have passion they they lack passion drive determination because you haven't spent time with yourself your mind will tell you what is next but you haven't spent the time to go all right let me just figure this out you're looking for let me google this and let me google for, let me Google this, and let me Google that. You're not going to find it there because there's billions of people in this world, and they're all supposed to be individuals. We have a pack mentality. That's why you're so fucking lost. Why am I so unique? I'm being exactly what the fuck I was supposed to be. I didn't follow shit. And when I did follow shit, I was like everybody else. The second I said, okay, man, hang on, dude. You don't like this. You don't like this. You don't like this. Who are you, David Goggins? Who are you supposed to be miraculously all these things just i couldn't even the the list of i had to do just wham it's like okay wow once you sit down with yourself and say okay i don't want to be like michael jordan or jim brown that both were on my birthday, so I looked at their birthdays. I can't. I'm going to be David fucking Goggins. And that looks like this. It just came, everything flooded. So every single day of my life, there's a different thing that comes up that I have to do. But no one knows what to do because everybody else is following steps. Like the Republican and Democratic parties. I'm not political. Neither am I. At all, for this reason. Republicans are going to vote Republican. Democrats are going to vote Democrat. You're not even a human fucking being, bro. No way all you fuckers agree with all the same and i know i don't so once you figure out yourself and who you are all the answers come so every night a different painting is being painted and it's a beautiful painting for myself like okay that's that's it it may look the same to most but the end result is very different that's why my launch i if you look at what i've done in 49 years it's more than most people ever do in their life because they were a race car driver and that's what they did they drove a car it's great And that's what they did. They drove a fucking car. It's great. I was all kind of shit because that's exactly what the painting was saying to do. What the mind was saying to do. Wasn't saying this driver cars to them, that race car driver, I don't know what the fuck to do. He retired from being a race car driver and they're lost. How are you still, I don't get it. Dude, you never gonna fill your your list but you never found your list because it never was presented in front of you because your head was cluttered with because you never just stopped for lots of minutes lots of years and just said all right it's me and you. Let it go. And it just, bam, it's right there. It's right there.
Inner Dialogue; Failing Properly (02:15:27)
I'm not a psychologist, as I mentioned before, but I'm going to venture a hypothesis here. I think that you've mastered the process of internal dialogue. But when I say dialogue, I think most people think, oh, the inner voice, the chatter, but that's just one half of a dialogue. A dialogue is a two-way street. So I completely agree because I know from experience that when we go inward, oftentimes we hear things, if we're really honest with ourselves, it's like, I don't want to think about that or that. No. And then we start looking outward or we start trying to shift our attention or distract. And there are a million reasons that are handed to us, excuses and seemingly good justifications to be able to do that. But dialogue is a two-way street. And it hit me while you were just saying what you were saying i was paying very close attention and i realized david goggins is talking about the voice that comes up including the terrible stuff that no one wants to hear about themselves from themselves but then he's also got the dialogue down where he knows the counter voice that's right he goes yeah you're right and so i'm going to do this or maybe no remember this you're in a dialogue a two-way dialogue in there not a one-way chatter dialogue there are books written by famous psychologists about chatter trying to shift your internal narrative you're like bring the internal the internal narrative that's what going inward is about but it's not one voice again there's a hypothesis i'm not claiming to be all-knowing lord knows i'm not all-knowing okay but you've mastered the dialogue and if there are three voices strong medium and weak in there you're you're like let's all come to the table so you've got a a symphony of voices in there that are all you that you know to be you. And you know how to have those conversations. You're not afraid to be in those conversations. And then you know what the outcome of that committee decision is, and you put it into real world action. And the world only sees the action. That's it. And only you can know your internal dialogue, and only I can know my internal dialogue. And the only way to quote unquote know it is to spend a hell of a lot of time there that's right okay a lifetime got it a lifetime like think about it for me to be sitting here in front of you you're not going to call 300 pound eco lab guy to come sit here you You might, I don't know, maybe. Probably not. Probably not. Think about this. What we teach people is kindness to yourself. Do you think if I taught myself kindness and I agree with it, God, so many people take me out of context, it's ridiculous. Take it however the fuck you wanna take it. God, so many people take me out of context. It's ridiculous. Take it however the fuck you want to take it. When I was 300 pounds, where do you think that conversation would have got me if I spoke kindness to myself? I'll tell you where it gets me. Right back to 7-Eleven, another box of mini chocolate donuts and a chocolate milkshake. That's the one voice. That's the one voice that most of us have that you're talking about. If you don't have a conversation in there, the other voice that you create that says, okay, how does this look? It looks very ugly. That kind of conversation for me went away a long time ago, which is why the dialogue is now, which you see a lot of action, because most people have inaction, because there's one person talking. And that one person is always leading you down the same path, the path that makes you feel very comfortable and happy with yourself. The second you create the other voice, there's conflict. There's battles. There's wars. There's defeat. One thing I learned, I taught myself this, and people go, I don't understand what you're saying. I'm going to try to break it down real quick. I didn't teach myself victory first. I taught myself failure. I taught myself how to fail. And people are like, that's so depressing. Is it? When you're 300 pounds and you can't read and write and you're fucked up, you know how many times you're going to fucking fail on that process? So if you don't know how to fail, there is no victory. I never talked about winning because I knew the path to winning was going to be years of failing first. So I taught myself how to fail properly. No one teaches you how to fucking fail. But if you're going out for insurmountable fucking odds that make absolutely no fucking sense. A black kid that can't swim, 300 pounds, gonna be a Navy SEAL. Okay. You better teach yourself how to fail first. Because if you sit in failure for too long, you will never come out of it. So the first part of my success was learning how to fail properly. And then eventually I started getting a few victories, but that's what people don't get. When you have buried yourself in such a deep fucking hole, you better first talk about the failures you're going to have first. And that's when that other voice comes up it tells you we gotta do something but it also tells you boy i'm not gonna lie to you goggins you're in for a climb bro you're gonna get your ass handed to you made fun of the outside noise the inside noise both voices are gonna be telling you to go yourself you are in for hell bro be telling you to go yourself you are in for hell bro i am so i better learn to fail so this is what you mean when you say that whatever anyone says it's insignificant insignificant as right it's the cap gun fire because it's just like it because the voice in your own head is is far worse and i should say sorry one of the voices in your head yes yeah i'm being very detailed, almost surgical about that, because I think this thing about inner dialogue we think is one voice. Yes. But you're making it clear it's many voices. It is. And the thing about it is you have to be really – and sometimes all the voices are telling you the wrong shit, man. But through years, years, not a podcast or listening to a book or reading a book, years of sacrifice, of suffering, of diligent pinpoint fucking work on what you want to do for yourself. Not like, oh, let me just do a bunch of shit. Let me, I want to be in every task possible. No. Pinpoint what I want to do with my life. What happens is you have all these voices that are telling you you're fucked up and this is going to be hard. But for some reason, you put so much practice into you that you can ignore every one of them that are telling you you're not going to make it and still be able to make it because you have put the practice in that you know this is the process it's such a daunting task that all the voices are saying no a daunting task that all the voices are saying no but you still have the conviction that i know i can do this and that's what it took for me to get here 20 30 years ago i had this 35 or whatever it was 30 to 25 years ago pipe dream and ever since then every voice was like you're a nut but when you put that practice in every day you lace them up and i mean run it's just a metaphor for life when you lace the up every day pretty soon you win pretty soon you'll win if you have the courage and the heart and the dedication and the mindset about everybody go themselves If you have the courage and the heart and the dedication and the mindset about everybody go fuck themselves. I know what I know. I've listened to myself enough to know I know what I know. None of you can hear what I'm hearing. And that's what people don't do enough of. They don't listen to their journey. They listen to everybody else's shit. Before you know it, I'm crazy. But if I'm so fucking crazy, why am I so successful? How'd that happen? I'm so misguided and fucked up and don't listen to him. Why am I the only one to do a whole bunch of shit? Why am I a trailblazer? Why? How is that possible? How can you be fucked up and also self-made the same fucking no no obviously you're not looking at the truth in front of you the truth in front of you is it sucks it's painful it's fucking mind numbing and that that is the truth. And that's why a lot of people don't like listening to me, because this is what it takes, creating another voice and sometimes going at it alone. All the time going at it alone, because no one's gonna believe in you. And that's that. What I'm about to say is not conjecture.
Introspection & Unconscious Mind, Cleaning “Cupboards” (02:24:59)
And I can say that with confidence because I did a four episode guest series with a brilliant psychiatrist, a guy named Paul Conti. He's from Trenton. He's a Stanford, Harvard trained guy. He's also got a lot of street in him. He's had his own hardship, real hardship. He's brilliant. And he said something that I'll never forget, which is, you know, we think that the forebrain, the part of our brain that creates strategy, et cetera, is the supercomputer. He said, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. It's like the supercomputer of the brain is the unconscious mind. It's the part of our mind that's controlling most everything. And most people, unfortunately, don't do the work to understand how their unconscious is controlling them. And that's a scary thing, this idea like your mind is controlling you, you know, and I'm not going to get into the free will debate. I believe in at least some will. I believe what you're describing and this internal dialogue, I think you have access to your unconscious mind. By listening to the dialogue, going inward, we know this is true in sleep, in dreams, in meditation, and just by shutting out everything else, shutting out all the external noise, which is filled with things that pull us to a... Noise makes it sound bad, but it's the gravitational pull of all the things that just allow us to distract ourselves without knowing that, you know, the ice cream, the have a cookie, the Merry Christmas, the unconscious mind, this huge piece of the iceberg underneath that Paul calls the supercomputer. He's saying that with knowledge as a neurobiologist, psychiatrist, psychologist, and he really knows. That's the piece that if one does real introspection, he calls it the cupboards. You got to look in the cupboards and it's often really scary what you find in there. And most people are just like, I don't even wanna know the cupboards are there, but you're pulling all the cupboard doors open. And then you're extremely deliberate with what gets put into action. You're not just going, oh, like I'm pissed, so I'm gonna act pissed, or I'm tired, so I'm gonna act tired. You're picking very carefully what to do. And that's a process that I'm guessing came to you. Does it come to you as a, okay, it makes sense why running makes sense. It makes sense why smoke jumping makes sense. So it seems like a huge portion of your time is spent understanding yourself and making sense to you. And so when people don't understand you, it's got to be extra frustrating. Because most people don't understand themselves. So that we're all running around going like, you're this and you're that, because most people are just unwilling to look inward. And I'm including myself, by the way. I mean, I've done a fair amount of introspection but I'm inspired today that word inspired but it's true motivated to start going inward further because it is scary it's like we don't know what's in those cupboards and it's terrifying yes especially because we don't know and those are the first ones to open up and like he talked about you gotta go through those covers I do spring clean every fucking day in those dark covers those those dark cabinets the ones i start with first that's the real me man that's the real me that's why i'm not ashamed i don't hide i used to hide i don't hide anymore he's exactly right i don't know all the fucking science behind shit i know what i know that's why i don't listen to anybody anymore i don't listen to shit i think most people are full of shit because i know i know the deep dark secrets of those fucking cupboards it's ugly man and every day i'm talking to him every day i'm cleaning them i'm cleaning them and i'm talking to the same demons that came out of those fucking coversboards as I'm cleaning them. Sometimes it go right back in them again. It's not easy. And this is why most of us just, why I am misunderstood. Because what comes out of those cabinets that I'm cleaning, sometimes they see on Instagram. Sometimes they'll see it in the pocket. Sometimes they see in this one. I turn people off. Open up your own cabinets and then go talk about it. Let me see how pretty it looks. Let me see how pretty you sound. Let me see how put together your words are. I bet you a fuck or a motherfucker comes out because for you to go back in there again to clean the same fucking cabinet a demon came out of, take some big balls, bro. To do it every day of your life. To go back in there and spring clean every day. Not once a fucking year. Once every decade. Every day, you know, it gets dusty. And every day, you don't start with the victories. You don't go, oh, this is nice. Look at my, I love me. Well, let me clean up this little dusty. No, I go right for the things that are going to keep me buried. I go right there first because if I don't clean those out first, the day doesn't start. So what he's saying to me is truth and like I told you many times today I could never figure out how to explain this shit to people because I'm not neuro nothing I'm just a guy that said okay we got to start in the dungeon and we got to stay here for the rest of our lives for you to become successful the dungeon is a place that has to be clean and it's the scariest place to be that's why i'm misunderstood because i'm speaking from the dungeon that's why i am successful because i go there every damn day and that is the truth what he says it's the exact truth those cabinets are dusty dirty and scary as broken glass dark spiders cobwebs but most of all your biggest fears the biggest things that put you in the fucked up place you are today are in there so we all like to keep them shut even like to lock them up act like they never happen that's why you never grow you never improve you never have real conversations like we're having right now never never oh no no no no no no let's not no no no let's not go there I talked to so many people who tell me that let's talk about this. Cause they'll tell me, but they can only say it once. And they'll say it in passing. They won't get deep in the weeds with it. Like you can't just clean it, motherfucker. You gotta spit shine that motherfucker. You gotta relive it. Every fucking detail of it. You can't just be like, oh yeah, my dad beat me. It is what it is. It ain't what it is, motherfucker. It's killing you. It's taking over your whole fucking life. But that's the conversation. Yeah, my dad beat me. I'm fine now though. I'm good. Okay. All right. No, you ain't, you ain't fine. You ain't fine. This is real talk. People don't have that. So your boy's right. 100% right. Scary as shit. It's scary as shit. That makes you who you're supposed to be. And that's the test. We forget, we think we're supposed to breathe air and have kids and pay the bills and shit. What's this life about? That makes no sense. Being tested, my friend. Tests come when you have not studied. Tests come when you think that you're in a great place that's that's the test the test is every day of your life and most of us fail because we don't know why we're here because we don't go inward to say oh you gave me a lot of to fix man and this test sucks but then you start But then you start. David Goggins, I don't think I could add to that. I know I can't. Thank you for sharing what you shared today. I mean, as much as your process or anyone's process can't be completely understood from the outside, you gave us a real window into this thing, this process that you was, as you said, God put it on you. I believe in God too. People can believe what they want, but somehow your life, God gave you these challenges early on, and then there was a point where you went internal. And like you said, you developed a skill, but it's a perishable skill. And you clearly live in the process of opening those cupboards, reopening those cupboards, trying to spit shine those cupboards, opening those cupboards, reopening those cupboards, trying to spit shine those cupboards, understanding that they're never, ever really done, but that you can gain ground on them. You can win day after day after day. And you really shared a lot of concrete things that I think, I know people are going to be able to apply if they choose. Right. And I agree with you. I think most people will be like, whoa, that was a lot. Yep. It's heavy. I think I want to just kind of bake myself in Netflix and Chex Mix instead. But there's also the reality that there are men and women, boys and girls who hear that and go, okay, and start cracking the cupboards open. And I just know that, you know, for myself, I'm extremely grateful that you're willing to put it all out there. You're so brutally honest, so brutally authentic, that word authenticity gets thrown around so much. And I can tell you that for me and for everybody else, like that's really what resonates. So whether or not you want to, whether or not it's the purpose behind it or not, you're lighting the path. So thank you. Respect. Thank you. Thanks for having me.
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