President JOE BIDEN Speaks Out For The FIRST Time About His MENTAL HEALTH | Transcription

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Intro (00:00)

Jay Shetty's podcast on purpose is the number one health and wellness podcast. The president participated in an interview with Jay Shetty, who you all may know, to discuss the administration's effort to tackle the mental health crisis. President, it's such a pleasure. Good to see you. Thank you for this honor. Thank you. Very, very grateful. Day will come when you open that closet door and you smell the fragrance of her dresses or you're going by that park where you walked with your child or your wife or your husband or the thing that reminds you that for a long time, we'll just bring a tear to your eye. But eventually, everyone's well will bring us smile and it'll be four bring the tear to your eye. When that happens, you know you're going to make it. Best-selling author and host. The number one health and wellness podcast. Everyone purpose with Jay Shetty. I'm so grateful and honored that you're here with me right now. Thank you so much for all your love and all your support for on purpose. It's incredible what we've been creating together, what we've been building together. And I'm so excited to share some big news with you. This is an extremely special interview today as I'm sitting down with the president of the United States, Joe Biden.

Interview With President Joe Biden

President Joe Biden On His Speech Impediment (01:10)

This is only possible because of all your love and support for the podcast and making us a platform that the president and his team felt was right to talk about mental health. This conversation is dedicated to the person behind the podium. I always want to get to know the human behind the title, behind the position, behind what they do in the world and spotlight and shine a light on mental health. We talk about so many of the things that he's gone through in his personal life. I'm so grateful that I got to have this conversation that we're going to share with the world at large and make sure that mental health is a mainstream conversation because it's so integral to all of our lives. I hope you enjoy this conversation. Thank you for all your love and support means the world to me. Hey everyone, welcome back to on purpose the number one health and wellness podcast in the world. Thanks to each and every one of you that come back every week to learn, listen and grow. Now, you know our mission here is to make the world happier, healthier and more healed. And I believe that learning about people's stories of healing, of grief, of loss, of growth is a powerful way to do that. And today I've been graciously invited to the White House and I'm sitting with Mr. President. And I'm so grateful and honored to be here and to have you on our platform and for you to choose our platform to have this conversation. I couldn't be more honored. Thank you so much. Thank you. I'm glad you want to interview me. Absolutely. Well, let's dive straight in. The first question I'd like to ask you is, what is your earliest childhood memory that you believe defines who you are today and the person you've become? The earliest memory I have is there's two of them. One is there was a bully in the neighborhood, lived down the area called the plot. We lived up the hill and I was out with my friends in the alley behind our house. And my mother was at the pantry looking out the tough guy in the neighborhood smack me. He was a couple years old in the me and I came in and hold on my face. And my grandfather was at the kitchen table. And it's what's a matter of joy. And he said, that's a shame. I walked in and my mother said, Joey, go back out there. So go back out there and walk up to wait until he walks up to you. And soon as he does smack him right in the nose and the nose. She said, I'll give you 50 cents if you do it. And I said, why mom? She said, you won't be able to walk in that alley again if you don't. I was scared to death. I walked out, popped him in the nose and bled. He ran and I thought, huh. It worked. But I think the lesson I learned the most, though, is I used to study badly. And I would talk like that and then I'd catch my rhythm and be able. And it was something that I thought was the worst curse could happen to me because everybody makes fun of it. I had a similar experience with being bullied. So that resonates very strongly with me. I think everybody does. Yeah. I was the runner of the litter. No, it really was. I was a little guy and I was a relatively good athlete even when I was a kid, but I literally was the run to the litter. Well, for me, it was my weight. I was overweight growing up and it was the color of my skin. I grew up in an area where I wasn't surrounded by a lot of Indian people. And so those were the two reasons except my mother didn't give me that advice. Sometimes I wish she did. My mother did the opposite. She actually came into my school and spoke to the teachers, which was really embarrassing at that age and not helpful for my own. No, I think maybe this. I had a similar thing. When I was in, I went to Catholic grade school and high school and you sit in those days, sat in alphabetical order. I was in the first row, biting four people down and reading class. Everybody read a paragraph and I got to my paragraph and I remember what it was because I used to try to memorize it rather than have to look at the word when I was reading it. And he was a gentle man and the teacher said, "What's that Mr. Biden?" He might not say, "Gentlemen." But it was easier to not say gentle man. I said, "Gentlemen." I said, "Mr. Bibiden, what is that?" And I got up and walked out and walked home, which is about two miles. My mother was sitting there tapping the table when I walked in. She'd get in the car, went down in the car. I walked in, went to the principal's office, sat me outside the door. The door was on those opaque glasses, glass windows and it didn't go to the ceiling. Anyway, to make a long story short, she said, "I'd like to speak to the teacher," my mother said. And she said, "Mr. Bibiden, I'd like to speak to the teacher." So the teacher walked in and looked at me like, "You're in trouble now." I walked in and sat down and I was cracking the door. I'll never forget this. And my mother, Katherine Newgen, your friend, you're finning him. She looked and I could say, "What did you say to my son?" She said, "Did you say Bibiden?" So I was just trying to make appointments with Bibiden. She said, "If you ever do that again, I'll come back and rip that bonnet off your head. Do you understand me?" I swear to God. Get up, walked out, go back to class Joey. But you know, everybody has something that is tough, particularly when you're younger. And it makes such a difference when somebody reaches out. I'm sure you had also had some experiences and someone said, "Come on." Like for example, there's more than a handful of young stutters and not so young anymore that I still keep in touch with it. One young kid introduced me when I ran for president. It took such courage because he talked like that and he practiced and he practiced and he practiced. But it's had a profound impact on his life. As a young man, when I was vice president, I could tell. You can tell a stutter, if you're a stutter, just by when you're in line with his mom, who was in Tennessee, and I was doing a thing for Al Gore. And she introduced her son and I could see him go. As a lips, I said, "Hey, I'm about to finish my speech. Why don't you come help me write it?" And the mother looked at me and he looked at me and took him in. I showed him how I marked up my speeches so that I could get a little cadence with what I did. Did you ever see the movie The King's Speech? Yes, of course. Well, the gentleman who had a copy of The King's Speech who sent me a copy. I don't know if I had my book with me, but there's one of these days I'll show you my speeches. I looked at it and I marked it up the same way. Every speech I marked up is the same way. I think they might have it. See the slash marks I put on? Yes. Well, it's just to help me, but there are people who have reached out to me too. Maybe that impediment was the best thing ever happened to me. It's incredible, isn't it, how a challenge that you're going through actually helps you become more compassionate and empathetic towards other people? It's kind of human nature for most people. When you understand the pain someone's feeling, your first instinct is, look, we have an expression of the family from the time I was a kid. It's all about showing up, to just being there. I mean, I imagine the times when you were down because they're making fun of your Indian heritage and an all white population, that having someone come up and say, "Hey, come on. Let's do a bomb." Makes a difference. Absolutely. Yeah, I'll never forget. You've just reminded me. Ian Windes was his name. He was the toughest kid in school, and he had my back. That was that person that reached out to me. So if anyone had a problem with me, they had a problem with him. He'd take care of it. It felt very safe. Felt very safe with Ian. Well, it really is all about reaching out, isn't it? For real. Think of all the young people today. I think that there's more anxiety and loneliness today than there's been in a long, long time. You know my friend. I have pointed an Admiral, a Macbethi. He was telling me about the percentage of young people today who are feeling lonely, alone. Sometimes it's just touching, just showing up.

President Joe Biden On Processing Loss & Grief (09:56)

I used to see some both who should be sitting here instead of me. Always say, "Dad, you don't have time to make that call." I'd get in a plane and go home because someone had a serious problem, lost a wife or daughter. And I said, "Dad, you don't have time." When he passed away, the hundreds of people told me how he called. He showed up. He was there. Because the people showed up for me too. It just really matters. You've been through, you mentioned it there, you've been through so much tragic loss in your life. As you just mentioned there, you didn't run for presidency in 2016. Shortly after the loss of your son, you've lost your first wife and daughter in a horrific accident. I can't even begin to understand how someone has the courage to process that much loss and grief. Let alone move forward in the way you have. It's truly admirable. How did you begin? I had an overwhelming advantage in the loss. And that was I had a really close family that was there. For example, when my wife and daughter were killed, my first wife and my two boys were very badly injured, a tractor child brought it. I was not in the accident. When I got home from the hospital, my sister and husband already gave up their apartment and moved in. We raised my kid, my brother. We lived in a suburban area. It was more country than suburban. There was a little barn on a garage barn. My brother came and he turned the loft of the barn into an apartment for himself. They were there for me all the time. That was a gigantic difference. My best friend in my life and my sister and my brothers. So I had an enormous advantage. And I think that when you see people who are going through something tough, it does matter if you reach out. It does matter. For example, when you're a senator for all the years I was in a small state, so many people and people would pass away at you up at the wake of the funeral. No matter what's happened, I learned it early on. People would stop and just come and throw their arms around me. Because if they know, you know the pain they feel, they get some solace in it. It's not always easy, but it just matters just to reach out. Let people know you see them. How did you allow yourself to receive that help too? I feel like, as you were mentioning earlier, with the loneliness and the anxiety that exists, a lot of people either struggle to know what to say. I think we live in a society where people are like, "What do I say if they've gone through it?" And the opposite end, what you just said, being able to be open enough to actually receive help requires a certain amount of courage and strength as well. Well, I was raising a family for real, an extended family, my grandparents as well, where my dad had an expression, "Family's the beginning, middle, and end." There's a rule in the family growing up, not a joke. We didn't know it at the time. Whenever you wanted to speak to your mother and father, they said, "Can we?" He had a problem. No matter what they were doing, they stopped. No matter what they were doing, they stopped and heard you, listen to you. And I did the same with my children, and they did the same with theirs because it's a matter of them knowing that they are the most important thing in your life. If they've got a problem, you're there to listen. I have seven grandkids, four or five and more them ups that talk on the phone. Every day, I either text them or call them. And no matter how many people they were having, I didn't realize they were having an interview on the four oldest grandchildren. They said, and just at the time, they said, "They call me pop calls us every day or texts us every day." And I called them, a phone rang. Well, I give my word. I had no idea there in that note. But it's a look. I just think being there is important. It makes such a difference, I think, knowing that someone's going to be there for you, just to listen, just to hold you, just to hug you. Yeah. I believe you're right. I believe we often overcomplicate things. We think we have to say the perfect thing. We have to have the solution. We have to be able to fix on this part. I agree. But it's just half of just showing up. Even people you don't know that well, but you've met. The fact you'd call and say, "I'm thinking of you. I've learned this from my experience." The day will come when you open that closet door and you smell the fragrance of her dresses or you're going by that park where you walked with your child or your wife or your husband. Or the thing that reminds you, and for the longest time, we'll just bring a tear to your eye. But eventually, everyone's going to bring a smile that has before bring the tear to your eye. When that happens, you know you're going to make it. That's the moment you know. It doesn't mean you still don't cry. But you know you can make it. I think there's an advantage sometimes if you have deep faith, whether you're a Catholic Protestant Hindu, Jewish, Muslim, whatever. My family, when I want to get an important message to me, they tape it on the mirror of the bathroom. I'm serious. So you wake up in the morning and... No, it's on the mirror. I guess I was down early on. I missed and I could be 10 years ago when I was down or something. My daughter actually taped on my... She's a social worker. Taped on my mirror. Happiness is something to do with someone to love and someone to look forward to. And I'm glad you have all those things. Just remind you. I think what you just said about the smile before the tear is probably one of the real est things I've ever heard. I think we often are trying to create a world in which we only have smiles and we put pressure on ourselves and the people around us to be forever happy.

How Vulnerability & Strength Are Intertwined (16:41)

And what you just said there was really resonated with me. It really hit me actually. The idea that you won't cry, it will happen. That tiny smile that you experience even through a loss, even through grief, you're fortunate that you got to have that experience that allowed you to find that smile at that time. And I feel like you've been through so many obstacles in your life, but I'd love to know what you see as the relationship between vulnerability and strength, especially as a leader because I think leaders have an overarching pressure to display strength in a certain way. I'll give you an example. I coach several CEOs and individuals, athletes and others. And one of the CEOs who leads a large organization called me a few months ago and we were working through some things together. And at one point I said to them, I said, it would be really wonderful for you to tell your teams that you lead what you've been going through and growing through. And they said, Jay, I don't know if I can tell them. I don't know if I can tell them. And I said, why? And they said, well, because it will look like I'm weak. And I said to them, well, no, you being vulnerable and sharing your growth is the greatest strength. That's not a weakness, but that was new because so many leaders feel they have to portray a certain type of strength. But even today I can see there's a grace in the way you're sharing. Well, I have a rule that I thought that everybody, my staff knew because I had when I was a senator for a long time at one point, I don't know how they measured it, but I had the same staff longer than anybody in the Senate at the time. For example, we're doing a very, very important spring court hearing. I was chairman of the Judiciary Committee. And we worked on it very hard and did all the research in any way. And there's one young man with people who saves in value, because he's the guy who knew all the detail about certainty. And I found out that he was having trouble at home. And I said, I want you to go home. Don't come to the hearing. He said, I can't go home. Go home. And you know why? Because I would go home. I have a thousand bosses, but only one, me, no one. And so I know when I had crises at home, raising the boys where I went home. I don't know how many years ago it was, but in this job, in his vice president, another person was having some trouble at home. And I found out, but I said, go home. And they said, no, no, I can't. I said, if you don't go home, I'm going to fire you. Go home. Your relationship is a hell of a lot more important than whatever you're doing for me. So that's a rule we have. Not a joke. Absolutely not. And you never have to tell me why. All you got to say is, I'm not going to be in. I take it your word. If it turns out you're playing games with me, I'll learn. But I know you too, O. Take the time because you're not coming any better than your relationship. And it's a little bit what you were just talking about. And I think you have to ask my staff, I don't know, but I think they, as long as they know, that's more important, more important than doing whatever specific thing you're doing at that moment for me. How do you apply that rule when it feels like what they are working on this specific moment seems obviously to be the most important thing in the world? How do you? Well, because there's only one advantage you get older. You've had a lot of experience and you're going to apply a little bit of wisdom. It's really critical. Yeah.

How to Make Life-Changing Decisions? (20:39)

And by the way, there's a selfish aspect to it. Because when you have a problem with someone you love or some problem, you've got to deal with it. Yeah. And you can't even perform as well. Exactly. Yeah. Absolutely. You've, every day for years, had to make difficult and stressful decisions, high stakes, hugely impactful on so many people. When you're making decisions, do you follow your head, your heart, your gut? How do you think about decision making? I don't know how to separate the three. Many times my heart brings me to the problem. And my gut tells me what I think I want to do. But my head, meaning the research that back sometimes says that's the wrong answer. I think you're driven by a value set. You know what you value. You know what you think is important in life. You know what you think is consequential. And I think people who know what they value, doesn't mean they're better or worse. But if you follow your value set, to me, you're kind of basic things. My dad used to have an expression for real. He said, Joey, everyone's entitled to be treated with dignity. Everybody. Dignity was his word, dignity. And what I find myself looking through the prison, for example, I was at an event. The other day where I was talking and I were talking about a problem, a mom was having provided for the health and needs of a child of actually a teenager. I said, all I can think of when hearing about not being able to afford the treatment was how she's deprived of her dignity. Imagine being a parent and you can't do anything about it because you don't have the financial where they're with all because you don't have the connection. You don't know where to go. It's a little bit like, you know, I think the most dangerous, the most hated word in English language and any other language translated is cancer. You have cancer. It's just strikes fear in everybody. Well, it's one thing to get an analysis by a great doctor, but you still need someone to guide you through. It's complicated. And we're finding significant breakthroughs in cancer, but you need someone to sort of lead you through who knows about it. I think it's the same way with about any problem people have. If there's a way to let people know there's an avenue, there's a way through. You know, I used to have a friend named Bob Gold who died a heart attack and I used to say, "Bob, do you understand me?" and he said, "Joe, I understand you. I understand you." But you got to know how to know. And that's why we can be so of little things. It can be of enormous value. It's like, you know, you're walking across an intersection that, "Oh, let me do that anymore," but you walk across intersections and there's a, you know, an elderly man or woman knowing they're waiting to see if they have enough time. Just grabbing their hand and walking across. It's a little tiny thing, but the anxiety, it relieves. Yeah, no, that resonates the idea of the more we're a part of the solution, the less the problem feels overwhelming. I think so. Now, I have to admit, when you've been through something that's been particularly difficult, helping someone going through it, again, forces you to relive your experience. Like, for example, the people I admire when we have functions where we're trying to make a point how we can help someone with healthcare, whatever it is, the people who have been through it who show up and support it. I always compliment them because it's like it happened yesterday when you start to focus on it. It's hard, we underestimate what we can do. Not an item, not an about top being president. I mean, just what we can do in terms of dealing with people. I try to understand what is motivating the other person when I'm doing things internationally or when I'm personally. If you can understand what motivates them, there's a shot even with the bad guys you can break through and get something done. There's a way to expose the meanness without causing direct conflict. For example, I remember I went to a Catholic grade school. We didn't often get invited to the Catillion, which was in the local school down the street in Mount Pleasant School. So I got invited and I was going to go. I was all excited about going. I think it was ninth grade. I was eighth grade, I got a little dance. And there was a guy who was a good athlete. That was a relatively good athlete. He was a good athlete from the school, the other school, big guy. He came friends, so I'm getting dressed and I didn't have a shirt to wear. So my mother got my uncle's shirt, who was a smaller man than my dad. And French cuffs enrolled up the cuffs, so they looked like it fit. And I couldn't find my dad's cufflinks. So my mom went and got a nut in a bowl. I wonder why she was down downstairs in the laundry room looking for it and put them on my side. "Mom, I can't do this. They'll make fun of me. I'll be embarrassed."

How to Understand Other People’s Motivation? (26:23)

He said, "Anybody comes up and says anything to do. You look at them and say," and he was just over to say, "This guy, Frank, came up to me and said, 'Hey, look at Biden. Look what he's got here. Hey.'" And I looked at him and said, "You don't have a pair of these?" He said, "Well, yeah, I got a pair." But I'm serious. How do you assess people's motivations? Like you were just saying there, that when you can understand someone's motivation, you can almost disarm them without exposing them, which is what you just gave that example of now. How do we do that so that we go to the root of it? I think often we get so caught up in what we think someone's thinking or what we think someone's saying, but actually going to the heart of it and the root of it. It's hard to explain. I get credit for these days for sort of holding the international community together. I try to understand what the circumstance the other world leader is facing. And see if there's a way, what needs to be done, there's a way through that he doesn't or she doesn't have to make a great sacrifice to do what she's doing, but help make the case why they're helping others. But there's ways to do that. And it doesn't require the person, if they have a fundamental difference with you on a subject. But if they're doing something because they don't have the political bandwidth to be able to do it at home, you can provide it. I will say to the leader sometimes, "Well, why don't you let me criticize you for this or thank you for that or more?" And most of the time, now you're going to have to top your head, you've got to know some of these people, they'll go, "Okay. Or why don't you criticize me? Why don't you criticize me for my not doing something?" And then I'll respond and say, "Okay, and then you can do what you want to do." It's just basic human nature, but I think trying to figure out what leeway a person has. I don't expect everybody to, that I'm dealing with, to appear in the second edition of Profiles and Courage. No, I mean, it's hard. But there's ways you can work through, not always, but you can work through things where you can allow the other person to save face and still get to where you want to go. And sometimes it works with you working with two people to get that done. But it's just trying to figure out what impediments are in their way to keep them from being able to do, what you know you feel you're good, you know they should do. That's a great perspective.

The President on Final Five (29:17)

I'm so happy you shared that because so many of us have fixated on what we want out of something or where we want to get to or what our challenges are. But Mr. President, I'm so grateful for your graciousness and kindness in giving me this time today. We end every on purpose interview with a final five. And these final five questions are questions we ask every guest. And there are some great ones in here for you. So the first question I'm going to ask you is what is the best advice you've ever received and what's the worst advice you've ever received? I guess the best advice I've received is show up. Just show up, be there and get up. My mother used to say, Joey, get up. Never bow, never bend, never get up. Just get up. But showing up is just, that's a big part. And I guess the worst advice I've ever received was holding a grudge because lots of times when people do something that is really not good, it's because they were fearful and they did it, not fearful of you, but their circumstance. And it gets you nowhere, which means people doubt what I'm really Irish. The joke inside was by really Irish, but I'll get into side. It's not very important, but holding a grudge is not helpful. Very true, very true. First time for both of those answers, I love it. Okay, second question, a lot of Americans today are seeking therapy as a form of support. Where does the president seek support and guidance in your own challenges and journey? Well, my best friend is my wife, a woman who has probably had more to do with my success than anyone is my sister Valerie and my brother Jim. And I think that's the place where I go most, but also I have a great advantage over the years. I've grown to have some great, great relationships with people who have worked with and or run on my staff. And I think most of my staff would tell you the senior staff is, I don't treat them like they work for me. I treat them when they say, "Are they no reason I hire them? I want them to know more than I know." And there are some things that I seek advice from a religious perspective, but that's really personal. Yeah, beautiful. Okay, third question. I believe it's been said that you told your first wife when you met her that you wanted to be or one day you would be the president of the United States. Is that true? No, it's not true. I love it. I read all this. Well, I did tell her. And the same with no man deserves one great love, let alone two, for real. The two women that I married, one passed away were women I knew when I went out with them the first time I wanted to marry them. My first wife, I told her when I met her, I went to $89 tax return. I'm about five guys down to Florida. I don't drink so I was bored with all of this. I went to three, I went to Nassau. And for you could apply for 25 bucks round trip. And I met my deceased wife and I told her when I hung out with her for four days down there on the beach and that I was going to marry her. She looked at me and said, "I think so." And I started commuting every day, every weekend when I was a senior in college. That's how I ended up with Syracuse. She's in there. My first wife was a blind date that my brother set up for us. And I knew when I saw her, I was on that 10-0-0 bachelors list for five years. And it's not a fun thing because there were a lot of them that don't get me wrong. A lot of nice people. But I was kind of giving up on thinking I could have us. And I got to blind date. I'm not afraid my brother said, "You like her. She doesn't like politics." I'm glad I asked that question. Question number four, this is very important to social media. So the question is, there are so many shows today based on the presidency, the White House, mirroring it, shows on TV, streaming platforms. Which one is the most accurate and which one is the least accurate? Mission Impossible. The most are least. Look, one of the problems I have is I don't, and I should. I don't watch much television. No, it's not because I'm above it or anything like that. It's just that, for example, for 36 years after the accident occurred, and I commuted every day, 300 miles a day. And the press actually, I had one, I got to know all the conductors so well, they became friends. And I was going home on the train, which the Secret Service doesn't like because there's so many opportunities to interrupt the train. And this particular guy, I'm not going to embarrass him and say his name, come to me, grab him and she goes, "Joey baby!" And I thought they're going to shoot him. Anyway, I said, "No, no, he's right." He said, "I just read the paper. You travel a million, 100,000 miles on Air Force planes because you've got less time than any miles to travel." And he said, "Big deal." He said, "Joey, we had every time at dinner." He said, "You know what? You figured out how many miles you travel an Amtrak." I said, "No." He said, "A million, 200,000 miles, 119 days a year, 300 days, 300 miles round trips, 36 years plus my phone forgot. My point was I was in a training lot. And so when I get home, it wasn't much to watch. I mean, not it was to watch, but I'd always make sure. I think, and I think, you know, all your guests know this, that children need to know that they're the most important thing in their life. So even if I got home late, I'd climb in bed or my two boys at the time and just even if they were asleep and get up in the morning and it wasn't like, "Ozzy and Harry, I wasn't fixing their breakfast." But I'd be there and have breakfast with them. They'd take off for school. I'd take off for the train. So I've been back and forth so much. I just haven't watched many pro-... By the way, there's a lot of good stuff, I'm sure. I mean, everyone's gonna turn on. And by the way, they got a great advantage here. You got a movie theater. Yeah. And so... Yeah. And they tell me I get this list where movies are in and we have the new one that's the... Oppenheimer? Oppenheimer, yeah. I haven't seen it yet. I haven't seen it yet. I haven't even... They're the movies I see these days. I get to see them at night once in a while. Okay. Very nice. Amazing. All right. Fifth and final question. We asked this question to every guest who's ever been on the show, but it truly is unique asking you this question. If you could create one law in the world that everyone had to follow, what would it be? I don't think it's a matter of being able to have any one law that could change people's attitudes. I think I'm optimistic. I think we have... We're in the cusp... We're in a time of real change and we're in a flexing point in world history. Whether I'm president or not, things are going to change drastically. And you see it happen in all around the world. We have an enormous opportunity, but the thing I want to change is American attitude that we can do anything. We can do anything. There's nothing we've ever set our mind to. We've not been able to do what we've done together for real. And so I laid out four things that I thought were critically important in my state. And one was to make a fundamental change in cancer treatment. We can curilide. And that's why I put another $6 billion. I mean, pick the impossible thing. I have... Caroline Kennedy gave me a copy of President Kennedy's... I'm not a president of Kennedy's speech when it's about going to the moon. He said, "Because we refuse to postpone. We have to refuse to postpone anymore." There's so much we can do. And I mean it. I believe with every fiber in my being, I've been doing this a long time and I've never been more optimistic about our chances than now. And that's why when I ran, I said I ran for three reasons. One to restore the soul of America, sense of decency, just the way we talk to one another. Secondly, to build this country from the middle out and the bottom up. The wealthy still do very well. But everybody has a shot. And thirdly, to unite the country. And I think we can do it. I really genuinely do.

President Joe Biden On Family Relationships

President Joe Biden Speaks about His Family Relationships (38:31)

But then again, as my offer referred to, I'm a cock-eyed optimist. But I really believe it. Mr. President, thank you so much for the honor. I'm so grateful. I have two tiny requests for you. I'd love for you if you don't mind to walk me through what's here because I saw these beautiful pictures when I walked in and I thought they looked really special and I'd love for you to share them. This one, my dad was a real gentleman and a well-read man, never got a chance to go to college. And he said, "Joey, never explained, never complained." And so we were having my fourth reelection effort as a senator in the late '90s. And my dad was over at our house to be there with me. And I was standing on this back porch overlooking this pond. I built a smaller home when the home we had. Everybody moved out. But it sits on a pond, a ten-acre pond. And I was saying, my deceased wife, she lived in Lake Skinny Atlas in the Finger Lakes Beautiful. I said, "You know, I wish Nili could have seen this." And my dad thought I was ready to feel sorry for myself. So he said, "I'll be back." And he took off and he went up to the local home art store. He came back with this cartoon. It's just his philosophy of life. It's Hagar the horrible lightning strikes, his boat's going down. He's looking up to God and having to say, "Why me?" The next frame of voice me ever comes by, "Why not?" My dad always say, "What makes you so special you don't have these problems?" I'll put it down here. The other ones, there's a bunch there. But one of my favorite ones is that one, my son Beau. This is when he came home from being a rack for a year with his unit. And this is his son, Lil Hunter. He got on his shoulders and wouldn't get off his shoulders. I mean, for hours, he was on his shoulders. The others are my mom and dad. That's my daughter in the love of my life, the life of my loves. Anyway, there's a lot up there. I'm probably born the hell out of here. Not at all. Not at all. I thought it was wonderful to see them when I came in. So thank you. Well, like I said, my dad really was one of these guys. And it was about, and so was my mother's side of the family. My dad would say he's the beginning, the middle and the end. And I believe it is. I mean, I know what you're trying to do is all those folks out there that are lonely, all those folks out there that are feeling uneasy, all those folks out there that aren't sure. I don't know. I just sometimes just reaching out and makes a difference. Thank you, Mr. President. Thank you. Thank you so much. You're doing good work for people. I really mean it. Thank you. Thank you for coming from you. And I look forward to many more conversations. Thank you. Thank you. One, two, three, two, three. Okay. Amazing. Okay. Amazing. Amazing. of the family.

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