Episode 52: One Girl, Two Cups - 15 Minutes To Freedom Podcast | Transcription

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Intro (00:00)

This is 15 Minutes to Freedom. I'm your host, Ryan Neidell, and today's episode is One Girl, Two Cups. Now I know as you're listening to this, as you see the episode title, and you just heard me say it, like what are the images that are passing through your mind? and you just heard me say it, like what are the images that are passing through your mind?

Discussion On Medicine And Pain

One girl, two cups (00:16)

Like I'm a 34-year-old man, so I know that sometime in the past 10 years, there was a viral video that was shared around the internet that was called Two Girls and One Cup. If you have not seen that video before in your life, I encourage you to not go and Google it. It is not enjoyable. It's not pleasant. It's not exciting. If you're an underage listener, most certainly don't go look at it. It is not good. But it was enough of a catchy idea that I thought it was a good title for an episode today. Because today, I've been on this journey, if you will, for the past five days, more like a torture chamber of life events, that I decided it was a good idea to do a Murph a Day for 30 days. And here we are on day five, of life events that I decided it was a good idea to do a Murph a day for 30 days. And here we are on day five, and I feel like I'm unable to walk. Like I try to lift up my leg right now to do a leg extension underneath the table, and my knee hurts. Like I can feel my heart beating in my knee when I do it. My body has been weaponized in the opposite direction of being functional. Like if you want me to lift a heavy object up one time and put it back down, I'm probably pretty solid. Maybe you want me to curl a weight like that has some sort of value in life. I can probably do that. You can talk about doing 100 pull-ups with me a 40 or 45 pound flak jacket on. Yeah, I'm not set up for that, but that's what I've been doing. And I want to push for this level of expansion. But in this level of expansion, I realize the fact there's something to be said for repair. There's something to be said for putting your body back together. And certainly I know I can do this for 30 days in a row. It's a mental challenge now more than a physical challenge. I shared with the guys at lunch today that it's not time. I'm not competing against somebody else. There is no clock. So if I needed to take two hours to get it done just to prove to myself I could do it, well, that's a decision I'm making. Granted, my max time I allow for myself is 65 minutes. And for those of you that have not done this before, an hour and five minutes might seem like an eternity. I challenge you to try this and then imagine doing it with a 40 or 45 pound vest on. Nonetheless, recovery becomes an active part of this, but I can't recover in a way that I'm taking a day off from the gym because then I wouldn't be able to honor my commitment. And to me, I look at life now. If I can't honor my commitment to myself, then who can I expect to actually honor my commitment to me? Really nobody. Think about your life. If you're not a person of your word in any capacity and you put something out there and you don't follow through with it, how do you expect other people in your life to follow through with their words to you? You really can't. How do you expect other people in your life to follow through with their words to you? You really can't. So here I am on today is day five of this excruciatingly miserable challenge that I've established for myself, which has nobody else involved with it other than me. Maybe one other person. We'll see if he sticks it out. But here I am, and I wake up in the morning. I'm like, man, I can't freaking move my forearms. I can't move my lats. Like, what am I going to do with this? I'm not a big believer in pain medicine. For me personally, it's a decision I made, obviously losing Miles, a good friend of mine, to a heroin overdose that started with a dilated drip. And all the way back into high school when there were guys I know that would, you know, mess with Vicodin or Percocet.

My feelings toward medication (03:19)

Things just never excited me. That was never the way I wanted to go. And obviously, that's an extreme example. Like, I could take it back a step and go Bayer or Ibuprofen or Advil. But between all the stuff that could do to your stomach lining and just being dependent on a pill for an external feeling, that's just not the way that I operate. So I'd look for more holistic ways. What else can I do to decrease inflammation in my body and potentially offer more stretching and more recuperative measures every day? And so of course I have, I shouldn't say of course, but I've been very fortunate in my life to have established relationships with some of the best myofascial release therapists in the country. I was fortunate enough to have one actually show up at my wedding, Jimmy Bluff. If you ever listen to this, I appreciate you showing up. Nonetheless, there's a great one here in Columbus. I'm on a standing schedule with her for every Friday at 10 a.m. On this 10 a.m. myofascial, I'll call it massage. Now massage you would envision to be candles and soft music and a dark room, maybe completely naked. It's warm. The bed's heated up. It smells like lavender. Well, that's the opposite of what I go through. What I go through is excruciating pain in the effort of muscle rehabilitation and repair. So I get there. It's fairly well lit. It does have a typical massage table on it. It certainly has sheets, but I definitely don't get naked. And she cranks on me to the point that I'm grimacing, if not crying, halfway through any individual session. She's digging and destroying layers of skin and tissue and adhesions in order to help me recuperate quicker. And so we haven't caught up because I've been on my vacation, honeymoon if you will, and wedding over the past two weeks. So not only have I done a MRF each day for the past four days, but my body also hasn't been put back together from her for the past two weeks.

Praise for Murph (05:06)

This is really week three, plus some traumatic damage consistently. So here I'm laying on the table and she starts working on my forearms. And she feels as she's touching my forearms, they feel like rubber bands about to snap. She comments out loud like, holy shit, what have you done to yourself? And so I share with her this ludicrous 30-day MRF challenge. And she's laughing at me. And she's an athlete herself. She's like, have you ever done a Murph before? I said, well, no, not before this past Monday. She goes, well, who else is doing the Murph with you for 30 days? I said, well, I don't think anybody. And so she, of course, questions why I'm doing this, because there's no one to hold me accountable. Well, that's just my mindset. I don't need somebody else to hold me accountable for the things I said I would do for myself. So she's cranking on my forearms and it hurts. It's bad. She works her way up my forearms into my biceps and then into where your pecs tie into your shoulders and tie into your biceps. And she starts putting her finger in there. And the pain that I feel is enough that if I could have got up and left in the moment, if she wasn't physically between me and the door, I probably would have. No shame in saying it. I have tears rolling down my face. I'm biting my, literally biting my lip, trying not to wince out loud. My whole body is tense. Like it's miserable. I know I'm doing it and she's doing it because she wants to make me feel better. But in the moment, it's fucking excruciating. Like it's horrible. And so we're talking, she says, hey, you know, I forgot to tell you, you haven't been here. I bought cups. And the guy said, well, what do you mean you bought cups? Like, I have a bunch of cups at home. You know, I drink out of them every day. I probably even have some cups at the office. And she's laughing. She says, no, no, no, I bought cups for cupping inside of here. And admittedly, I know what cupping is, but now I'm playing along with her a little bit. Like, what do you mean cupping? And so she pulls out this black box. It looks like a briefcase. Like my dad used to carry a briefcase when I was young. One of those, you know, it was probably two feet wide by a foot and a half deep with a big leather handle. And she opens it up and it clicks. And inside of it, there are these domes. And there's probably 25 domes in there. And this medieval looking contraption that's almost like one of the claws that we had when we were young. You could hold a handle and reach something that was far away from you, squeeze the handle and it would grab it for you. Except this doesn't have a claw on the end. You can easily see that the handle itself attaches to these domes and you're able to pump it and create a vacuum. And so she explains to me what this is, what this does for me. And so she takes these cups and she goes, look, it's going to hurt a little bit, but it's supposed to. And so she puts the cups where she feels the adhesion. So she's trying to break, what she's trying to do right now is take the fascial tissue and tear it apart from the muscle to release the things that are binding me up. And so she starts on my left shoulder and she puts one cup on and I said, I can't really feel that. Then she puts a second one on. I'm like, I can feel that a little bit. She puts a third one on and now I can really feel them. A fourth, a fifth, a sixth. So I look, I'm laying on my back. I look at my left shoulder and there's six cups. And as these cups are increasing in pressure, you can literally see the skin being sucked up into the cups. And the cups are, let's say, three inches deep. And my skin is every bit of a halfway up the cup. That's an inch and a half of skin that's coming up into the cup. And there's this dark purple look to my skin is every bit of a halfway up the cup. That's an inch and a half of skin that's coming up into the cup.

Cupping Description (08:05)

And there's this dark purple look to my skin. And she proceeds to tell me that dark purple is actually the bad blood, if you want to call it. The things that are adhesions and are slowing me down. That's all that being released and it's coming to the surface of the skin. They're not really bruises. It's actually blood that's pulling right there. And I'm incredibly fascinated by this. So much so that I say, look, can I buy these at home? I'm a complete freak when it comes to this stuff. If I can buy a gadget, a gizmo, a device that I think is going to be a competitive edge, I'm instantaneously trying to find it on Amazon. And so she laughs and says, of course, and there's a joke as I'm leaving and say like, look, I'll see you next Friday, but I'm gonna look like a leopard because I will do this all over my body if it's going to make me better. And so she has these cups on me and she's trying to massage my lat and really pull that apart with these cups on. I can't take it anymore. So she has to take these cups off of my body. Like she takes them off of my shoulder one at a time. And it sounds like a suction cup being released. And as you release it, there's pain followed by pleasure. The pain is the fact of when it releases from the skin, that change in pressure hurts. But the minute it's gone, there's this soothing feeling of the fact of you're just finally not under that tension anymore. And so she takes all six off, and then she starts rubbing and massaging, and I can feel that it's a lot more pliable for her. And I think the pleasure in this, or really what it is, the pain, is gone. I think we're done with this fun, new contraption she's come up with. But we're nowhere close. Eventually I flip over, and she puts them on my lat and all across my back. And like I can feel her, like we're not doing one or two pumps. She's doing four, five, six pumps to really make sure that vacuum is tight. And here I am, like just fucking miserable. Like there's been no part of this hour. Here we are in the 55th minute of this quote unquote massage that most people would think is just this enjoyable experience. And it's been the worstth minute of this quote-unquote massage that most people would think is just an enjoyable experience. And it's been the worst 55 minutes of the week. Like I would take doing another Murph immediately after finishing one and have it take me 55 minutes versus the way I felt in this 55 minutes. Like it is horrible. But she takes off the cups. She puts them up. She massages things. And as I finish the session, she leaves the room and I go to push myself up off of the table You know just normal push my hands down just to pivot my body up so I can sit upright like i'm sitting in a chair As I push up for the first time in the past week. I have no pain in my left shoulder As I push down to move off the desk move off the table and walk towards my clothing There's no pain in my lats.

Pleasure from pain (10:17)

My forearms aren't tight. There's nothing that's holding me back at this moment. Certainly, we didn't get to my legs because of how messed up my upper body was, but as far as my upper body is concerned at this moment, I feel like a new man. I feel like there's been nothing that went wrong before. I'm truly amazed by this. You see, I see her all the time, so I'm used to there being some sort of recuperative benefit, but these cups have taken it to a different level for me. These cups that had so much pain associated with it in the moment have now created such pleasure at the fact of I can actually move around. It's like I'm starting all over again. So again, I didn't do a Murph this morning. I'm going to get to do one here when I leave the office today, which will be super exciting to do at the end of a Friday because there'll be nobody in the gym. It'll be very easy. I'm kidding, of course. But in that, I start taking notice of, as I'm driving from the massage appointment downtown to meet the guys for lunch, where else in my life am I so consumed with the pain of what's going on that I'm unable to see the pleasure that's going to be on the backside of it It was the pain of coming clean with all the shit that i've done in my life through these episodes like that's painful Like it's not fun for me to admit all the things i've done that are bad And i'm sure i'll keep coming up with more of them. Like there's no way I have them all out in the open yet But the pain that's associated with that is the pleasure now of understanding the fact that it's making impact with some of you guys listening. So I get that at this moment. It's not always present, but I can make it present if I think of it that way. Maybe it's as I'm doing these Murphs, like it's painful. Like the first mile with this vest on, I get to three quarters of the way done and my shins are screaming and it's just freaking painful. But there's such pleasure that comes on the backside of it when it's done. It's a sense of accomplishment. Like I didn't give up. I didn't let the man inside my head win. The pain of a relationship and all the dumb shit I did to Lindsay. That's fucking painful. Like I don't like to think of the fact that I cheated on what's my best friend, my partner now. That's miserable. But without that, I wouldn't be able to truly accept and understand and appreciate the pleasure that we experience now every day with one another. So in your own life, where is it that you are too caught up in the pain to understand the pleasures on the other side? Is it the pain of driving to the office every morning fighting rush hour and how miserable you are and how much you hate it? But the fact that that's conditioning you for something better in the future? Maybe you already know what that better is in your heart, you just haven't taken the jump to go make it happen yet. Maybe it's time. Maybe it's the pain of not wanting to exit your relationship because you don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. But you know there's going to be incredible pleasure as soon as you get it over with. Sure, there'll be the fallout. Sure, there'll be the frustration. Sure, there'll be the tears.

Future pain from change (13:04)

But when you're done, the weight will be lifted off your shoulders and you'll be able to go thrive as a person. Or maybe it's in the gym. Maybe you just haven't been to the gym for longer than you can remember. And you know you need to be there because you feel better when you show up. But there's such pain associated with the fact of changing your patterns and giving up that hour every day that it stopped you in your tracks from moving forward. Think all the pleasure that would be on the backside if you start to change your body into the way that you want it to look versus the way it looks now. And if it's not about how it looks, maybe it's just about how you feel. You see, if I know anything in life, it's on the backside of immense pain, there's always a higher level of pleasure.

Exploring Origins Of Pain

Origins Of Pain (13:37)

None of us are challenged with more things than we can actually handle. When you get through handling them, there's such gratitude and such immense prosperity on the backside of it. It's life-changing. And all that comes from something as simple today as having a girl that I've known, a woman for quite some time, put these cups all over me and pull out toxins in my body that I put there. cups all over me and pull out toxins in my body that I put there. There's gifts everywhere if you look for them. You just have to find them. And if you keep on this pursuit of these gifts and do everything you can day over day to work through the pain and get to the pleasure, you'll see that every day you end up getting shit done. Hey guys, Ryan here. Thanks for joining me today. If you've enjoyed this podcast, please head over to iTunes, Spotify, or wherever you consume audio and subscribe to 15 Minutes to Freedom. If this brought you value, please do me a favor and drop me a five-star rating. Then share this podcast with someone who needs to hear it. For additional content, head over to RyanNidell.com. That's R-Y-A-N-N-I-D-D-E-L.com.

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