How Gratitude Builds Bonds - Why You Should Be More Grateful For EVERYTHING | Transcription
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This is a day one, this is 15 minutes to freedom. I'm your host elite life optimization coach Ryan Nidell, and today is day one of family week. So far we've covered and touched base on... I'm your host, elite life optimization coach Ryan Nidell and today is day one of Family Week. So far we've covered and touch base on fitness.
Discussion On Family Week And Purpose In Life
Day 1 of Family Week (00:31)
Seven full days wrapped around what fitness can look like. From there we bounced over into faith, combination of meditation and various modalities around creating intention in connecting to a higher source. And now for the next seven days we are diving full speed into the quadrant of life that I refer to as family. Now, family can mean many different things to you as it does to me. Growing up, family would have been the nucleus, the sum total of people that I was around, my mother, my father, my younger sister. Then of course, as life takes its twists and turns and we evolve and we evolve as we are known to do, my younger sister. That of course as life takes its twists and turns and we evolve as we are known to do. My parents part ways get divorced and all of a sudden there is a stepmother as well as a man that my mother starts dating. In addition to that there's of course the connectivity of the sum total of people around me, friend, social circle, write all the good happy things. Now, family as I refer to it today, of course my mother, my father, my sister, my sister, my wife, our daughter. The guys at the office and a handful of individuals that are very close to me. That's family... would be remiss to say at this point there's not part of this that I have to refer to you as family. As we round the last days on the podcast of 15 minutes to freedom prior to launching the optimized life show I realize that none of this would be possible without you being here, without you consuming the content, without you sharing things that you find to be of value, without you commenting, leaving reviews, and doing things to propel this to a new height. I have no problem letting you know that as this show comes to a conclusion and we switch over into the next season of my life and hopefully our life is together, I am going to call on you as my family. I'm going to call on you to review the new show. And hopefully our life is together, I am going to call on you as my family. I'm going to call on you to review the new show. I'm going to call on you to write a written review. That day has not quite come yet, but to me that's part of what family is for.
Gratitude toward your wife (03:37)
When you need help, when you need assistance, there are the people there to reach out and extend your hand to asking for help and all of this ties into today's message. You see I believe that it is imperative that we start each day with a sense of heartfelt gratitude. Now this gratitude can be had any number of different ways, but I'm going to start by sharing gratitude towards my wife. This is based around the fact of the nucleus of my life, the people closest to me, there is no one that holds a higher position than she does. There is no way anyone will ever be able to unseat her. There is no chance someone comes between us. Now admittedly there's been ups and downs. So much so even in the past two weeks. See this is the part that quite often doesn't get discussed. I traveled for seven full days based around a work schedule. I left here in Columbus, Ohio, had a delayed flight that was supposed to be direct to Los Angeles Would have had me arriving at 845 Los Angeles time on a Tuesday morning As luck would have it or the divine intervention would be I was actually pushed to a flight that left at 1230. This was beautiful because I got more time with my wife. I had a clear schedule that morning and could just connect with her. The not so beautiful thing ends up being the fact that my flight took me from Columbus to Philadelphia, Philadelphia to LA. Now there was a four and a half hour layover in Philadelphia, which was, again, a beautiful gift. It was a beautiful gift because it allowed me to maintain my commitment and my obligations to the men and women that I serve in a coaching capacity. Yes, I referred to myself as life optimization coach, as we go forward actually changing that to life optimization specialist. I say specialist because that's exactly what this is. I believe that no matter where you are at in life, there are different levels to the game that we all choose to play, being our individual reality. And depending upon where you're at, your focus might be to simply find clarity in your mental capacity. It could be to further weaponize your body. Maybe it could be to have a deeper relationship and a connection with those people around you. Or perhaps your ultimate desire is to grow and scale a business. All of which I can say the track record that I have not only for myself, but also for my clients has been truly phenomenal. That comes from a fact and a place of service, of gratitude, and consistent expansion of what I believe to be possible while testing variables in my own life before rolling them out to clients. Now I have created a system and a process that allows someone with as little as $19.97 to gain access to the entry point of what this lifestyle is. There's a value ladder as we refer to it in marketing that takes to gain access to the entry point of what this lifestyle is. There's a value ladder, as we refer to it in marketing, that takes somebody from that dollar value up sequentially from 200 bucks to 400 bucks to 1,000 dollars to 1,500, and so on and so forth until we find the right level for the level of service that you are trying to achieve. It so happens that my travel day was based around serving clients in a one-on-one capacity, which is admittedly my favorite way to serve. From where I said, I don't know that it's the most effective that it's my favorite. I don't know that's the most effective because all of us feel in some level that we are playing the game of life alone. And I'm playing this game of life alone, your associations matter and when you are paired with like-minded individuals driven towards a common outcome, the success that I'm able to find and receive from those clients in group settings are second to none. There is nothing like it. All of which I must digress upon because this travel schedule has me leaving Philadelphia and we end up sitting on a plane on the runway for three and a half hours. In full transparency, normally I would get very frustrated. A larger individual sitting in a small seat feeling cramped and just agitated. That wasn't the story of this fateful Tuesday. I see when I experience a sense of gratitude I realize that there's things going on that are greater than my current capacity for understanding and so I was able to actually leverage this time to dive further into my studies to then have further value to the next meetings I was a part of. This didn't happen by chance. But all this then has me landing in Los Angeles, California at 12.30 a.m. Wednesday morning, local time. I've been up at that point for a full 24 hours, and by the time I made it to the hotel, it was a better part of 25. This one led into two days of meetings in California, an incredible client driving up from San Diego to spend one-on-one time with me as we concluded our agreement and arrangement with one another and then had me catching up another flight to Costa Rica, a mere six-hour journey. All of these things are incredibly impactful. A mere six-hour journey. All of these things are incredibly impactful.
Rededicating yourself (10:09)
They're incredibly impactful because it kept me in a sense of gratitude for all that I get to achieve, all that I get to experience. But I share that from a place of frustration as it pertains to my wife and I. You see, we share an energetic bond and we are so used to being around each other that by the time I land in Costa Rica and I'm there until Monday morning, flying home and not arriving home until 11 p.m. things just feel off. Things just feel off because I'm not connected. Things feel off because I've been able to be selfish and focused just on myself while she has so graciously held down our life here. During that time we move offices. Her, Kurt and Doug do an incredible job of moving us from one location to the next. And I get to just essentially come back and plug in. Tuesday, another member of the Life Optimization Team, Taylor Sappington, gets in town from Canada, to which we had arrangements and commitments to spend the next four days together mapping out and growing her business enterprise while co-branding things together. All of this of course is wonderful but takes more and more time away from my wife and I. Now, Lindsay was completely dialed into the fact that this is what was going to happen. And Lindsay has a phenomenal relationship with Taylor. Nonetheless, her and I are not connected. It comes to the point Wednesday evening that we finally have that difficult conversation. You know, the one that you avoid from your significant other, your boyfriend or your girlfriend, the one where you realize you're both other, your boyfriend or your girlfriend, the one where you realize you're both agitated with each other and you need neither one of you truly understand why. That conversation that typically results on hurt feelings and hurtful things being said. Well, we had our conversation and got very clear on where we were at and where we were going. We both spoke very openly about how we felt, and then also what we wanted to focus on. This then put us in a sense of gratitude yet again for one another, based off what we had previously been through in our own relationships prior to one another. Think about how many times in your life, you have been in a relationship, you have been in a relationship prior to one another based off what we had previously been through in our own relationships prior to one another. Think about how many times in your life you have been in a relationship with someone else only to have a be that during a highly emotionally charged state there is no actual resolution and from the of resolution, what ends up happening is more resentment. And while conversations are had, they are not had in an efficient or effective manner that brings together both sides in a unified front where you can understand the other person's opinion and vantage point, and both determine how you're going to walk side by side hand in hand towards the next up of your life. In previous relationships it used to happen all the time for me, much of which because I was afraid to voice my own opinion. I was afraid to verbalize what it was that I truly wanted based off of fear, fear of being left alone, fear of hurting someone's feelings, fear of not being understood, fear of being an emotionally charged lunatic not being able to fully articulate what it is that I need. And from the sense of fear, what ultimately happened was I would shut down and seclude. I would dive deeper into work and I would sedate myself away.
Dont get stuck in mediocrity (14:09)
All the while leaving the door open for my mind to wander. And as my mind would wander, so would my intentionality. And from that place my moral compass became skewed and then broken. And I would step out on any person that I ever dated. Now that'll never happen with my wife. It'll never happen because we made a commitment to one another. But that commitment is actually founded in a daily habit and ritual. That daily habit and ritual is something that you can do with incredible. That daily habit and ritual is something that you can do with incredible ease and simplicity. As you push yourself and force yourself to be truly grateful for something that your partner has or is offering.
The habits of healthy marriages (14:53)
See there's not been a day that has passed by in the last two years where I have not shared something that your partner has or is offering. See there's not been a day that has passed by in the last two years where I have not shared something with my wife. I have shared with her on a consistent basis a message of love, honor, or appreciation. It seems so very simple, doesn't it? To take five minutes of solitude in the morning prior to the world waking up. It seems so very simple, doesn't it? To take five minutes of solitude in the morning prior to the world waking up, experience heartfelt and open gratitude towards my partner for something that she has done that I can take notice of and then share with her.
Whats your purpose? (15:31)
Admittedly, this sharing of information, the sharing of knowledge is not to get her to respond back. No, no, no, my friend. This note of appreciation, this letter of gratitude, this amount of service and humility is based around tapping into my own source of endless abundance and gratitude. You see I came to realize that if I would simply stop and just be and allow myself to experience what gratitude truly is is and dive all the way in to what being grateful could me mean for myself to experience what gratitude truly is. And dive all the way in to what being grateful could me mean for myself, I would then be able to operate throughout any day in the face of adversity, knowing that there is something greater on the other side. You see too often, just like the first travel day where life throws curve balls, it's easy to get frustrated that something out of your control has changed. But wouldn't you know on that day just like every day before and every day hereafter I started the day with a heartfelt sense of gratitude which then led me into maintaining that feeling and being able to tap back into it all throughout the day.
The purpose of doing something (17:01)
And that's admittedly what the first step. that feeling and being able to tap back into it all throughout the day. And that's admittedly what the first step of this equation is. The first part of a family conversation is expressing love on an appreciation to the person that is absolutely the closest to you on a daily basis. Daily means every day that ends with a why. Now I don't care that you live with your significant other or your partner. I don't care that you see them every morning. I care that you take the time to write them a message. You see there's something that happens there's a a neuroplasticity, a neural pathway that truly becomes etched in your brain when you stop and you write something down.
Sauna Cleansing (17:52)
See there's easy ways to mail this in, of course you can just roll over in bed and say to your partner, I love you so much, it's so great that you take care of the house and the kids thank you thank you. Yeah that's that's a path but it's a path that leads nowhere quick. You see so much of these messages are not for the other person yet again they are specifically to increase what you believe to be possible.
Appreciate the micro (18:13)
And so from that sense of gratitude, love, honor, and appreciation to your partner, I can guarantee you that whether you're in a relationship or not, there is a person that you know to be closest to you that would love to hear this message. It might feel awkward at first, I understand. But think of this just for a moment if you will. Imagine that you yourself woke up one morning to receive a message from a person that you felt close to sharing with you something that they love, honor, or appreciate about you. How much different would that day feel for you going forward. You, my friend, have that level of control and are able to express that to other people.